Hello, I am new here. I am just wondering if anybody has been through a similar thing to me.
I was with my boyfriend for nearly 15 years and lived together for 5 of those years. I thought we were in it for keeps. We had spoken about marriage and kids in the future. I maybe put too much pressure on him in the last couple of years to start a family when he wasn't ready. About 6 months ago he started getting more and more distant and went into himself. I had thought it was pressures of work so didn't think much of it. We have had times like that before in the past so thought it was just a patch we were going through. If I am honest I wasn't overly happy in those months myself.
Well long story short he asked me for a break to which I agreed. I thought some time apart would be good for us. In that 'break' I found that he had literally started seeing another woman and they had slept together. I was so shocked and my heart broke. He then split up with me, I would never have taken him back after what he did. Now I have just found out that the woman is now pregnant.
I was completely floored by that news. He didn't want to have children with me but he now has a baby on the way. I didn't think my heart could possibly break anymore than it already had been. I know I am better off without him and things will get better for me but I can't help but feel like this new woman has come in and stolen my dream from me, all I ever wanted was for him to be the father of my children. I should point out that as far as I am aware the baby wasn't planned and he was as shocked as anybody!
I have an amazing support system around me and everybody has said this is the start of something great for me and I will find somebody who values me and wants the same things as me. I feel like I am seriously lacking in self confidence. He has always been by my side and I am not sure who I am without him.
If anybody has any advice or has had a similar experience I would love to hear from you.