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Does age make a difference???

32 replies

Sexyminx · 21/02/2007 23:04

I am 38 and have just started seeing a 50 yr old.

He is kind, gentle, loving and many more things.

But does age really matter, it doesnt to us, I was just curious as to what others thought.

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expatinscotland · 21/02/2007 23:04

No

lockets · 21/02/2007 23:07

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tia2 · 21/02/2007 23:09

as long as he trats you right that is the main thing you could be seeing someone your own age and he be a right uhem bugger!

colditz · 21/02/2007 23:10

It's only a 12 year gap, and it's not like you're 16.

wartywarthog · 21/02/2007 23:14

no. i lived with someone for 5 years and we had a 12 year age gap. we split up for reasons unrelated to age. as long as you want the same things in life and he treats you well, no problem.

Rantum · 21/02/2007 23:17

I think that you can fall in love with another adult regardless of their age (although I would have a hard time with a ninety year old myself but I'm only 31). Whether it matters? Well, I guess it depends on who you are asking? In a way it is completely personal and completely arbitrary - what gap is right and when does it become wrong? So why don't I like the idea of a ninety year old? Can't say really maybe because that is the same age as my Granny. So maybe I'd find it hard to date a person the same age as one of my parenst, but any younger would be ok. I don't really know! Best to you both though, hope you stay happy.

ledodgyDave · 21/02/2007 23:17

There was 14 years between my mum and dad (dad was older) and they were together for 20 odd years until they died.

tia2 · 21/02/2007 23:18

nice one rantum i totally agree!!!!!

Belgianchocolatesmama · 21/02/2007 23:20

No it doesn't. There's 14y between my dp and me (he's the older one) and no one ever notices our age difference, least of all us.

Eulalia · 21/02/2007 23:21

Have been with dh for nearly 17 years and there is a 20 year age gap between us. Um, does it matter? Well depends what you want to do. It has caused a few difficulties for us but we have got round them. We've been married for 8 years and have 3 children and have a good stable relationship. I'd say your age gap isn't significant at all. Good luck.

Twinklemegan · 21/02/2007 23:26

There's a significant age gap between me and DH. We've had some difficulties due to him having children from a previous relationship but that's nothing to do with the age. He's also found it fairly hard to having a new baby at the age of 50. The only other thing really is that my friends are all a lot younger than him which can make things a bit weird. But we've got so much in common that it overcomes everything else.

Twinklemegan · 21/02/2007 23:26

"fairly hard to ADJUST to having a new baby"

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Sexyminx · 21/02/2007 23:29

Thanks guys.

It really doesnt matter to me, I really like him, but I know how narrow minded some people can be, it was funny in the pub the other nice, some people's faces were a picture. I had to sit there and chuckle to myself.

Sometimes age has its great sides, he is more caring, sensual, gentle and much much more than most men I know.

He always makes me laugh, we find poetry to send to each other, or lyrics from songs. It wouldnt happen with someone younger, I've tried.

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expatinscotland · 21/02/2007 23:31

Sexy, that sounds lovely and really special!

Just laugh off people who give you dodgy looks.

They're probably jealous that you two are so loved up!

wotzsaname · 21/02/2007 23:34

Better to be loved and to give love than not loved at all. Forget the age.

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Sexyminx · 21/02/2007 23:36

He's just read this thread and thinks I've written some lovely things.

And agrees with you all.

Aww he's so lovely, I just wanna hug him & (nudge nudge)

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DetentionGrrrl · 22/02/2007 08:14

of course not- it's about the people. i met DP at 16, and he was 27. The age difference has never shown. We have similar political ideals, tastes in films and music, the same friends etc. It's about what you share, not when you were born.

maggymay · 22/02/2007 08:57

I think it can make a difference my daughter was 18 when she her exh (who was 13years older than her) and the reason they got divorced is she out grew him.

DizzyDave · 22/02/2007 09:02

it's fine. dh is 41, i'm 26. i only see there possibly being issues when he's retired and i still have 15 years to work..planning early retirement though.

shosha · 22/02/2007 09:12

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juicychops · 22/02/2007 09:29

Im 22 and my dp is 32. age gap doesn't bother us at all

bellarosa · 22/02/2007 17:22

My dads last longterm girlfriend was 6mnths older than me and was abit weird as she tried to parent me! and people often thought she was his daughter. but apart from that i have no prob per se with age diff's.

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Sexyminx · 22/02/2007 23:30

Thanks guys.

Altho my man sometimes thinks that I cant possibly be attracted to him as he's 50.

He doesnt have a problem with the age, but sometimes wonders what I see in him.

And I aint a gold digger, he makes me laugh, he makes me feel special, the most important thing in the world, loves me for being me, even when I have no make up, scruffy etc, he is very caring, very loving, gentle, fun to be with, very emotional, makes me feel sexy, and just a fantastic guy, what more can I say, but I think I have to reassure him frm time to time.

Altho I need that too

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SexySue · 25/02/2007 22:17

Minx - you are lucky to find a man like that as a single mother!!

lou33 · 25/02/2007 22:34

Mine is just over 11 years younger than me, doesn't bother either of us in the slightest. He has treated me better in the 7months i have known him, than my exh did in 17.5 yrs. He is great with the kids and has restored my faith in men