Does age make a difference???

[Sexyminx]

I am 38 and have just started seeing a 50 yr old.

He is kind, gentle, loving and many more things.

But does age really matter, it doesnt to us, I was just curious as to what others thought.

I was with an ex for 8 years and he was 16 years older than me.
Don't think age has anything to do with it.

There's 15 years between me and my husband (he's older), I never notice at all, and I don't think it really registers with anyone else, but he gets insecure sometimes about what I see in him (a lot, but I can't always convince him of that).

We've just had a baby, and he thinks at 49 that people will think he's the Grandad. (they don't).

One of the best, strongest couples I know have a 15 year age gap. She will be 60 this year, he is 45. Unusual for the woman to be the older one but they are phenomenal people, brilliant friends of ours and have a very strong relationship. She looks very young for her age (looks 50 max.) so they look good together too ... It works really well - he can't have children, her children are grown up ... perfect situation really.

The other couple I know with a big age gap is my FIL and his wife. He is 75 and she is 57. They have been together for 10 years or so but I can see there may be problems ahead as she is beginning to struggle with the fact that he is getting 'old' ... all he wants to do is chill out, read the paper, do the crossword - she still wants to go out on the razz a lot (she is a lush and a trollop but that is another story) and she says he is getting really 'boring'.

I think what would worry me with such an age gap is, what happens when the older one DOES get 'old' ... My DH and his family are worried about how Step MIL will look after FIL when he needs looking after - will she cope, will he be treated well etc ...
That would be my only concern about an age gap.

Having said that Sexy, your man sounds lovely and you sound very happy, so go for it

Thanks guys, it means a lot to me.

I am finding that every day my man means more & more to me.

He is so understanding, and I just love being with him, obviously work and other commitments mean we arent always together.

But we talk to much, I've never spoken to someone as much as we do, in fact for a man, I've never talked to a man so much, he listens and responses.

I still catch him disbelieving that I could be with him. Its almost like wow she's with me, but dont read that as a trophy, he would never look or see me as that, god forbid, I'd slap him .

theres 12 years between my dh and i.im 28 and hes 40.only time i notice age gap is when he goes on about how great 80s was!
when i was 20 i lived with 42 y/o boyfriend.people hated it though and we both lost friends.
i think age gaps are fine and whatever makes you both happy.

I have been following this thread with interest, primarily as sexyminx is talking about me.....
Each time she writes the things she says about me, I have a broad smile on my face.
Most the time, I don't care about the age difference, but reading your posts, it can cause problems, but then so can anything if people let it. I don't see her as a trophy, I don't see her as a boost to my ego as I am such an old git, (old git was a joke). I see her as the most special woman I have ever met, I miss her every moment she is away from me and I can't take my eyes off her when she is about.
Do I need reassurance? Not consciously, but perhaps I do, but I think eveyone does sometimes
Age difference a problem? not if the 2 people involved don't think it is and sod the rest!

Justaman - you are naughty for posting, cheeky.

And thank you for what you have written.

Also Ladies thanks for all your postings too.

It makes me realise I just need to get on with it, it is the man I love not this age.