I will try to explain the best I can.
Me and my DH have been together for 10 years and have 2 children. We get on well love each other very much, I just have one problem.
My DH is incredibly opinionated he researches many things to a massive degree so its not just he decided something for no reason. However once that decision is made its kinda the be all and end all of it. He says he doesn't mean to but a lot of the stuff he says comes across as if you don't agree with his point your an idiot.
This is always been the case so i really don't get into conversation with him about politics or anything like that as its just not worth it.
My problem is he is talking a lot about the environment at the moment and global warming. I don't disagree with his opinion on it at all and I think they are very serious issues. But what he is saying is that he is scared for the future of our children and the world they are going to grow up in. So much so he can't justify going on a plane to our holiday next year.
Now this is a massive family holiday my mum and dad are paying the majority of it, there is all our family, sisters family and brothers family going so its cost them an absolute fortune - my DH happily accepted when first discussed last year.
Now he is saying he won't go when i have talked to him about this and that two flights won't make that much difference compared to the enjoyment the whole family would have. His response to that is if every person did this there would never be a change which is true i suppose. I have not mentioned it in a few weeks because last time I did he said i was forcing him to do something he found morally wrong.
I wouldn't change my morals so why should I expect him to?
The problem i'm facing is telling my parents they have saved so long for this and are really excited. They haven't actually paid yet so there will be no monetary loss on this, but they wanted everyone there they won't understand this reason and I know it will cause conflict. In the recent Brexit vote my DH and mum voted different ways and that caused some issues as my mum got offended by some of his comments but they agreed to just never discuss again. This however can't just be brushed under the carpet as such.
Also how am i meant to explain to the kids that Daddy in not going?
I have a very strong relationship with my mum and i'm scared about whats going to happen when he tells her he is not going and the reason why. I suffer from anxiety depression and panic attacks and I just can't stop thinking about this its overwhelming me.
Please help what should I do?