Can someone please tell me how to fall back in love with my husband? I've been so stupid and am now paying the price. I've been involved with someone else for roughly seven years now. When it began I was in a difficult place feeling unappreciated and lonely. I didn't want it to happen but I let it. I was so weak and vulnerable to everything he put before me, which I am ashamed about. And how I grew to love him. We survived all kinds of difficulties but to cut a long story short it's now over. He's moved on to someone else - serial cheater obviously - which I naively thought wouldn't happen. He's telling her all the things he told me and it won't be long before she's in deep too. I can access some of his messages so know whats going on altho he doesn't realise this. He still thinks I think we are still on! I know the way he operates obviously. I am so very very angry with myself. It's a very difficult situation but now I am left with a marriage which altho not unbearable (in a serious sense) is actually quite dead. I feel nothing. My heart is breaking and grieving for what I have lost that I should never have had in the first place. I cannot bring myself to summon any feelings for my marriage/husband. But I feel that I need to because I 'owe' him. He doesn't know about my relationship and I'd like to keep it that way. Yes I know I'll be flamed. Yes I've gotten what I deserve in many peoples eyes. I just want to try to be normal now tho I feel like I'll never be normal again. My head is in a turmoil and I can't sleep, eat or get on with anything, whilst trying to maintain some semblance of everything is ok. I really need to talk it over with someone but have no one I could confide in. I want to move on and forget the OM altho I know it'll be the biggest struggle of my life so far. What can I do to repair my feelings for DH? The biggest problem is that I have never felt passionate about him anyway (complicated history) . I'm not wanting sympathy. It sounds like 'poor me' - I know people will not be on my side - but it is what it is and I can't change it now however much I'd like to. 