DH thinks I've given consent to be with new girlfriend

[Darelydo]

AIBU to be to with DHs perception that because I've agreed to Divorce he thinks this is my consent for his new relationship with woman he's been having an affair with? He's been so selfish even bringing gf to our local pub on NYE and they plan to move in together soon.
I found out in August while on holiday

YADNBU to be upset,

Thanking you for your consent?! What an arse. He sounds selfish and you deserve better.

She'll soon find out what a wanker he is. And you'll be free of him, living your own life. Good luck to her, she probably needs it. Onwards and upwards OP, you'll be ok

Logically speaking, f you have split up and are now living in separate houses then I think it is reasonable for him to have a girlfriend. However, it is not considerate to flaunt her in the local pub. That's cheeky. If people go off with somebody else they should do the decent thing and move away. I bet he wouldn't like it if you did the same. I;d be tempted to find a handsome man (where are they all) and flaunt him.)

Your reply could be " why are you thanking me. I haven't given any consent. If you think I am endorsing your new relationship, think again. I think you are a shit because of how you treated me

^^^ I like this response.

His talk of "consent" is so that he can tell everyone, and himself, that you are happy for him to have his new relationship. The fact that you are not, because why would you be, is not something that he wants to allow into his consciousness as that means him having to face up to his actions.

Wanker.

Yanbu op. What a twunt. I would have to tell him that although he doesn't need your consent as you are divorcing you most definitely do not give him your blessings. Just as you didn't give him consent or your blessing to betray you and your sons by having an affair and ripping your family apart.

I know it is hard, and for him to flaunt her is just cruel. I don't get why she would want that either tbh but obviously confirms what type of person she is.
I'm sorry ano hope one of your mutual friends tell him to f*ck off when next flaunting.

This advice is spot on, I need to channel my energy on positive/ future/ me ... I will never give him my consent, that's his agenda and he obvs just wants to be forgiven
It would all have been so different if he'd had the balls to talk about how he was feeling before being with someone else

Thoughts are with you OP,

Was the pub a special place to you both ? Such crap timing NYE x

He is probably just throwing the word 'consent' around because it eases the guilt, and makes everyone else think you're on board and that he's not such a bad guy, and everything is hunky dory. At least him behaving like an arse gives you another reason to be glad he's out of your life. He's someone else's arse now.