Grown up Dd rude to me in my own home and unsupportive dh.

[whatisforteamum]

Dd moved out this yr and as it is four hr journey asked if she could stay over xmas.we have no spare rooms as dh has one so do I and D's.I started a new job on shift s so did D's so I pointed out it could be tricky and doing 15 hr days I would it see her.Dh arranged to go to hers over the hold with presents as he had two and a half weeks leave.
In the meantime my new job didn't work out (1st time in twenty hrs) and I found a new one.I then got stu k down by the flu and spent 8 days in PJs and lost half a stone.again 1 st to e in decades.
Dh brought CD back with him for a few days so she can visit my DM and df who is terminally I'll.
Now it transpires she is staying two weeks.even this would be OK if she wasn't so rude.critical and using dh against me.
I will admit I'm still struggling with exhaustion and all the upset of the last two weeks however I think d d should show some respect while she is staying and at least not be winding me up.
I feel so lonely as d d and dh side with each other.I am quite shocked how rude she is and he does nt step in.Iam trying to see it from her point of view but I'm struggling tbh.
I did point out d d would have to help out before she arrived.help.

I guess my family were colder and made it clear if we moved out we moved put.My mum said if you be made your bed then you have to lie in it.Tbh dd who currently isn't working does realise the long hrs we do and morso over Xmas as she worked in the same industry. Alls well that ends well though.

Dh still claims he was right when we went to get sandwiches and dd said nothing was appealing he got huffy about walking a couple of yards to the next place then blew up at her at the till for not grabbing the bacon sandwich when the sign said order at the till.bit of scene making and choice words at the till !! Tbh she isn't usually on the receiving end however she knows how I feel as there was no need for a huge over reaction.

Maybe he's stressed out because his wife and daughter are arguing, and he's caught in the middle?

I was kind of shocked that you wouldn't share a room with your husband for a few nights, so your daughter could see you all at Christmas.

Who the fuck does that?

Shocking.

I'm so glad you and your dd are getting on well again, OP.

Glad it's becoming obvious that it's not your DD that's the root cause of the issues.