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Did something daft, feeling bad

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bananasmoothie · 20/02/2007 13:55

I posted about DP's mum buying his underwear...well as someone else said this attitude is likely to spill out onto other areas of his life and it does...

His mum packs his bag for him when he comes here, she washes all of his clothes, irons them all and then packs them for him when he goes away (or comes here) for the weekend.

Last weekend we bought a few lagers in and watched a film, towards the end of the night we were starting to get a little drunk, I ordered a takeaway for us both.

Anyway when I get drunk I get "silly" and DP was going on about how his mum had forgotten to pack him enough pairs of socks I got a bit irritated and flicked garlic sauce onto his black jeans for a laugh...it was only meant as a joke but due to teh drink I didn't really antisipate how annoyed this would make him. Anyway he was furious, tried to wipe it off with a damp cloth and made it worse, he eventually stormed upstairs and went to bed.

I didn't think much of it at the time but the next morning he was still angry, said he's taken the incident as a piss-take directed at his mother and he wanted the jeans washing before he went home. I agreed to wash them but the stain didn't come out.

He's calmed down a bit about it now but I'm still debating whether or not to pay for the jeans or just forget about it. I'm sure he's still annoyed about it, he's been a bit "off" with me ever since but he seems to be trying to "let it go", I feel quite bad about it but not sure I should bring it up again.

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Eddas · 20/02/2007 15:29

This thread has had my lol so much, how bl*y silly!!!

Seriously a thread about flicking sauce?!. Think if he was my dp he'd have been out on his ear.

I'd definately tell him to get out of his mum's(is she some kind of nutter, doing all his washing, bringing him dinner in bed wtf?). He really needs to grow up. Cannot believe he is 26.

Can't remember who said let this be a lesson to teah our ds's to look after themselves but how true!! Made me think of a comment from my nan re my mum's treatment of my brother, 'she did so well with him treating him just like you and your sister' What coz he's a boy should she'd have waited on him hand and foot!!!

Panncake · 20/02/2007 15:31

Are you going to slap him again, HD? Can I please hold your coat again? Please??

bananasmoothie · 20/02/2007 15:58

One thing I HAVE gotten out of this relationship is the realisation of the importance of teaching my boys to be independant. I mean...I've never been one to wait hand and foot on anyone and I don't do it with my kids either, they HELP me make tea, they help me put the washing on, my youngest son knows how to use the washing machine and he's only 6...they also pack their own bloody bags when they go to their dads on a weekend too .

I honestly didn't realise that there are woman out there who are prepared to 'baby' their sons into adulthood, I find it repulsive.

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monkeymonkeymoomoo · 20/02/2007 19:53

Unfortunately some women are prepared to 'baby' their partners through adulthood too

Please don't be one of those! You sound so much more sensible than him, life is way to short to waste time on someone like him.

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