Can anyone help with some advice?
Dd has no sense of personal space or boundaries. She is constantly using everyone else's stuff. She has just come in my bedroom because she heard me on the phone. I was talking to my therapist. The door was shut. I waved my hand at her to tell her to leave and she plonked herself down on the bed next to me. It wasn't an appropriate conversation for her to listen to but she wouldn't leave the room so I shut myself in the ensuite (no lock) and she came in there!
She walks round the house in underwear. She leaves the toilet door wide open. She tells her 5yo brother off as though she's his parent. She tells me off! She picks her nose and eats it when she's sitting in a room with other people.
Any sign of a shut or locked door and she's in there, either barging in or knocking until someone answers, always for completely ridiculous and not urgent reasons.
She takes food meant for the whole family, e.g. the peanuts we bought to munch on recently, she poured the whole massive bag into a bowl, ate a few and left the rest on the side in the kitchen. No one else can now eat them because of the aforementioned nose picking etc.
We have rules and boundaries in the house and the other two have no problems. I feel like we are constantly pulling her up and telling her off and it makes no difference at all. I must tell her to close the bathroom door (and flush the fucking loo!) three or four times a day.
She takes expensive makeup, the laptop (which is now passworded), my kindle because hers isn't charged, my clothes, hairbrush, anything she fancies. She has zero respect for other people's belongings.
I am just exhausted. I don't want to be constantly on her case, she is bright and funny and affectionate but I feel like all I do all day is tell her off. She winds up her brothers for fun, and even the dog.
I am pretty much at my wits end and I am out of strategies. Please, if anyone has any advice I'd welcome it.