Can anyone help?

[Ilovealfieandannierose]

I posted a few months ago about an ongoing situation regarding my husbands sexual preferences and how difficult I found them. I got lots of understanding and good advice but wasnt really ready to hear it.

Since then and completely out of the blue and unexpectedly, he has been arrested and is under investigation of internet crimes relating to children. I am absolutely devastated and heart broken. Ss are now involved as we have 4 young children, he is not allowed unsupervised contact. Our whole world has been blown apart and I have no idea what to do. I dont think I can manage on my own. Christmas has been horrendous and I feel so alone.

yes, Ilove thinking of you, how is it going?

OP, I have had a similar experience. My father was arrested just over 10years ago, for child porn offences, as well as other offences. I won't lie to you, it was hellish, and I was an adult at the time.
He served 6 years, I think, but from the moment of the allegations being made my family cut off all contact.

Sorry, posted too soon
take each day as it comes, take as much time to process everything as you need. You don't need to make any promises to anyone.
You will come through this, I'm living proof.

Struggling lonely massively abuses my prescription.

Op, what do you mean? That you're abusing your prescription drugs? Please be careful, I know things must be so hard, but your children need you.

Samaritans are on 116 123 OP. Please call. None of this is worth wrecking your own health for.

Ilove please please speak to the Samaritans. Can you also get an appointment to speak to your psychiatrist or a specialist therapist?

Can your parents or another trusted friend help you with the kids at this time?

Please do not risk your health or ability to care for your kids at this time.

This man has let you and the kids down massively, but other people, friends and relatives will be able to support you in time, and you will be able to move on.

We are here for you, please post if it helps. It is a new year, when things are new there is a chance for change.

What can you think, realistically, that would help you at this time? please make a plan to get some help and take tiny steps towards that help.

Just echoing MrsBertBibby excellent suggestion...

www.samaritans.org/

[email protected]

Assuming you are in UK?

116 123 (UK)

Just checking in. Are you ok ilove ?

Getting some crisis support. Feeling awful.

Ilove keep talking if it helps. Of course you feel awful. It is an awful thing to happen. But I believe you can get through this with help and support.

Thinking of you.

How are you feeling OP?

Kids have been lovely today, lots of smiles and fun. I just cant stop.crying whenever im on my own. Just dont know what I am going to do. Will see thr social worker tomorrow, hopefully get a clearer picture of their perspective.

Ilove please take one day at a time. "Just dont know what I am going to do." Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Talk to Samaritans if you want to vent, or talk to us. Really, you can just message on here when you need to and if you don't get a reply quickly enough feel free to PM me.

Thinking of you.

There is support out there, I just Googled, no idea what is best, but try these if you want to get some more support.

www.supportline.org.uk/problems/offenders_family_support.php

www.stopso.org.uk/stopso-support-for-families/