Anyone else totally alone for Christmas?

[SpaceKnickers]

I have:

2 aunts
1 uncle
5 cousins (all with partners/kids)
mother
father
brother

And I'm not in contact with any of them at all on account of my terribly abusive childhood. My father is a paedophile who tortured me. All his relatives took his side over me, believing it's impossible that he could do what I accused him of. My d 'm' never bonded with me and walked out when I was a small child & her side of the family are all raving narcs with their own severe problems, which leaves my poor brother, who ten years ago had a nervous breakdown and cut himself off from everyone. So I have absolutely no-one this Christmas, or any other Christmas for that matter. It's more than a bit sad to lose your entire family.

At last something has gone my way! I have managed to change my username. Maybe there is hope for me yet.

Happy Christmas sorry you are alone but just enjoy a lazy day pleasing yourself sounds nice.

I'm pottering round a European city while xh encourages ow to play mummy with my dc.

It's shit.

But then dc & I now live abroad so it's shit for xh 40 odd weeks of the year. So I'm sucking it up.

Lots of lovely beer & sightseeing is helping!

Hope you have an enjoyable day whatever you do Space.

Are you on twitter at all? Or you might be able to just look it up anyway... Sarah Millican does a twitter thing under the hashtag #joinin for those on their own on Christmas day.

OP sorry to hear. I would love a cat right now though!

User, that's scary, I was going to book something like that next year. Sorry that happened.

I'm on my own as I was last year. It's fine, enjoying the peace and freedom and indulgences. One son is having marriage problems and it's best I keep away, not welcome by DIL anyway....the other is with his wife's family so the kids can play with their cousins. May see him tomorrow.

I have had so many Christmases where I've had to tear the kids from their presents and drive to family who have ignored me/left me out, generally been damn rude....that one where I feel happy, not pressured or upset is bliss.

I also have a dysfunctional family re: half sister, half brother in their own bubbles, and an aunt and cousin who are just bullies when they get together. Such a critical family that I do not see them, for my own sanity.

User and space: I hope you can find peace and contentment today in pampering yourselves and find some pleasure in small things today. At least there is peace, no rows or any more disappointments. Planning to do something different next year sounds like a good plan.

I am all alone this xmas ( except for my cats) sitting alone in my flat. I have bern pigging out on comfort food, still wearing my pj's, watching the crap on TV and it's gone just after 3pm.

Lorelei I agree it was so disappointing. At least if I was at home I would have some home comforts to treat myself with. Instead I'm eating Percy Pigs watching Frozen and feeling a little worried about myself that I'm kind of enjoying it. If you do want to do something next year give me a shout and I'll let you know which companies to avoid.
Lukas Percy Pigs to the rescue. Life could be worse. Maybe I should look at this as a wake up call to sort myself out and stop relying on others. For instance I am going to try doing the same sort of trip next year but I'll go by myself and organise it myself that way I will be in control. It seems to be when I out my faith in others it goes all wrong. So I'll have a day of self pitying wallowing and tomorrow I'll pick myself up, dust myself down and sort myself out. Percy Pig anyone? I have lots.

May I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle.
Good Luck! 😊

Id love a Percy Pig, thanks.

I've managed to fix a computer problem for dad so at least I feel I've done something, he was going to pay a techie.

I've seen Frozen once, I quite liked it.

Dan I saw that Christmas puzzle last night and it had me totally at a loss as to what it was about. Total admiration for those who understood by I was stumped. No idea what I was meanto look for.
Lorelei you are a wee star replying to me. Thank you. Please remove the Percy Pigs from my reach. I now feel sick having eaten too many too quickly. I have travelled with a few companies who cater for solo travellers and am now realising that unfortunately you can't control who goes on them. There are some very strange people out there and I keep coming across them. I am a bit of a magnet for them. However I also keep trying again and hoping for the best. Hence my new user name.

hic (peach schnapps) Bugger the Christmas puzzle quite frankly, I had a look and I've NO IDEA. Laundry went out the window. I'm sitting here fuller than I've been in aaages after an enormous dinner and 2nds and 3rds of pudding Off to watch tv in bed...... Happy Xmas all! xxxx

Hi all, i have experienced a lone Christmas the year i lost my late DH. I couldnt bear being around the jollity and noise, when i knew I'd be dying inside.

I went to Homebase the week before Christmas and bought a load of paint, and redecorated my dining room starting Christmas Eve thru NY. I cried a lot while i was painting, but by the end I realised Id survived the loneliest time of year and had a lovely new dining room.

Sad to read that people are alone but looking at some threads its a massively stressful time and can be just as unhappy even in a crowded house!

Hope next year brings new gifts to everyone

Down, is it like the Seven Year Itch where he puts the booze and fags on a high shelf and just ends up getting the ladder out when he wants them?

Damn my message has disappeared.
Maybe I should try the high shelf as will power itself is not working. At least I feel a bit better if a bit pink around the gills. Maybe I should have changed my user name to Percy saves Christmas.

I was up at ten to six this morning and the only words I've spoken out loud are "blimey! It's half past four!" They're probably the only words I'll say today.

Merry Christmas everyone! :o

I'm off down to the hotel restaurant for something to eat so I can get back in time to watch Strictly. I will take any small pleasure I can get today. For those of you who have been there for me thank you. To all those of you also on your own I am taking the stance no company is better than bad company. At least when I'm by myself no one can make hurtful comments. I have a day left before I fly home tomorrow so am going to go into London and window shop. If the trains are running that is. Will pop back after tea to see how everyone is but thank you for being there and caring. It means the world to me.

Always someone on here Down to chat, give support. I hope you had a nice meal and maybe will have some retail therapy tomorrow. I do not know why good people get a bad deal often, or indeed why so many are so cruel.

Sadly though there are always others who are having a rough day no matter when it is and who can therefore identify and connect with another human being when they need it. The internet has helped me out of a bad place more than once.

Another lowner here, same as last year, but not bothered by it. The only complaint is the crap programs on offer on terrestrial TV.

Pigs make me think of this , lovely if you like animation - I'm a big fan of Ryan though!
m.youtube.com/watch?v=ffhSkKviw1I

Just myself and DS this year but he is always in his room. Comes down for food and that's it.

Me, I am totally alone. Lying in bed thinking about how my life can have gone so badly wrong, everything that is wrong with me, and crying over JK Rowling's Xmas message. to others out there.

NRT(whole)T, but thought I should tell you what a fucking awesome person you are Spaceknickers.

You survived that wanker. Stood against a the other Wankers. You're getting ON with your life. And... You're thinking of others (I know the inviting us other sad loners was tongue in cheek, but you ARE!)

You rock. I wish you a fab 2017

I totally agree Zeppo. Space you are awesome" Funny how hard it is to believe good things about yourself but believe me I'm in awe of you. Space as rotten as you may feel today by starting this thread you actually made my Christmas Day one of the best in a long time. People actually took time out of their day for me to show they cared about a complete stranger. That wouldn't have happened without you. I have ended up feeling better than I have in a long time and that is totally because of you. I would never have started a thread by myself. So thank you, and the other mumsnetters, for giving me the best present in the world....your time. I will sleep much better tonight now because of you all.

I'm also totally alone having a little beach holiday. Other years I had to work so no big deal. My kids are with their father and his relatives. Life goes on.

OP do you have any contact with your brother?