sex only, no relationship

[conway]

Been divorced over 2 years now and met a guy on OLD. We get on really well and have been intimate a few times. The problem is , we can't see each other much due to work and kids. I have 2 young boys. He is also divorced with a kid.
He has made it clear that we can't have a relationship as too busy but wants to see me for sex. Part of me thinks that I am fine with that as my life is too busy for a relationship but the other part feels that I will always want more.
It feels like having affair but with no other partners involved. When we are together feel so good but when we are apart I am full of anxiety and waiting for his messages.
Any one else with this experience and how did it end?

So you hardly ever see him because he's too busy ? But when you are not with him, you feel anxious.

Well you've answered your own question. This is making you unhappy and it will get worse.

Run don't walk .

Psychologically you are not ready for this kind of casual relationship and he is. The result isn't going to be good.

Still contacting my Mr No Commitment guy and he was contacting me but have not seen him.
I haven't heard from him again all new years eve and it is making me feel very bad. I would have thought if someone cared for you those would be the times he would be in contact.
we did arrange for another date on sat Jan 7 but not sure whether to go.
I am very anxious and not sleeping. Really feel like I am falling apart.
My marriage , which was very bad broke up 2 years ago and this is the first attachment I have formed.

Block him Conway. You need to break this one because it's going nowhere. Dating should not make you anxious and upset

You say you have arranged another date for 7 January . But you said upthread that he was too busy to date you, he just wants to see you for sex.

So on 7 January are you going out for a date? You know, spending time with each other, going out for a meal or to see a film etc

Or is he just coming round to your place for sex?

Was hoping for a date night. However, as I have still not had any contact for him for 2 days I am not sure what is going on.
I am trying to be strong and not keep looking at my phone.
If I don't hear by tomorrow I think I will just block him. I know It's the right think to do. It was just so nice to have a male interested in me if it was only for sex. After 20 years in a bad marriage and 2 1/2 years without intimacy It was lovely to feel those feelings again.
Now back to been a single mum again.

nothing wrong in having those feelings again, but not at the expense of your sanity.

oh conway it sucks doesn't it? the bit that really resonates with me is the part where you say that if he cared then NYE would be a time to get in touch. It's so hard. My Mr No commitment was the same. I mistakenly thought FWB included a friends part- but it was very blurry and confusing. I would do things for him that I would do for my friends but he never/very rarely reciprocated. It took me a long time to realise that he only 'cared' and said the right things etc when he was horny. Otherwise I slipped out of his mind. Even though I was trying to convince myself I hadn't developed feelings, the feeling of being totally forgettable/unimportant really hurt as I felt I wouldn't treat friends like that, let alone one I was having sex with. If you're in my life, you're in it but for him it was very much dependent on his libido. I'm so sorry. I hope you get some sleep tonight. I slept much better when I went no contact but as you know I wobbled last week and contacted him and the insomnia came back instantly. Big hugs

Now , I have blocked Mr NO Commitment feel so much better. Slept better as well and not looking on my phone all day.
Thanks for all your help.
Am having a break fro OLD . May try POF next time instead of Tinder.
I am putting it all down to experience hopefully one which I have learned from.

Glad to hear you have made the decision and are feeling less anxious.

I agree about putting it down to experience. Have you found the dating support threads here? there's lots of experience and wisdom and hand holding for when you feel ready to try dating again.