How much sex?

[Chokehold]

How much would you like and your partner?

How much do you get?

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Twice a day (me), thrice a week (him).

Thrice a week.

Once a day (DP), once or twice a year (me).

We probably have sex once every few months.

I'm on a very high dose of anti-depressants due to bipolar and unfortunately it has killed my sex drive dead.

But yes, also, not sure we'd have the time!

I get up at 6am already to leave for work at 7am. Get home at 7.30pm, eat dinner, an hour or so to relax with TV and then really need to be asleep by 10pm for the early morning.

No idea how we'd fit sex in during week days and we don't even have DC.

Me and my hubby have been together 17 years - have 2 small children and are pretty much everyday 2x more if we can find the time or the children are away.

I get very grumpy when life gets in the way too!

I have a higher sex drive and do get told no on occasion too.
I will indulge in alone time when I need to curb it or we don't have time for anything else 😳

Always makes me wonder why people don't want more? Why wouldn't you?

I'd be happy to have sex every day but as a newly single woman I can't find any decent men that are single to have sex with.

Age and time together play their part. . 24 years ago, aged 24 would have easily been 10 times a weekend. Today its not even 10 times a month but this is mostly down to the fact that neither of us are bothered by sex in the evening (probably 3 -4 times this year) and there is no time in the morning mon-fri.

2-5 times a day when we're together.

Relationship is quite new though and he lives quite far away so we make the most of it when we do see each other!

Whereare
What you have said is so true.
Frequency of sex has so many variables but amongst them the longevity of the relationship , age & working patterns are major factors.

Pixie your post just lacks any common sense.

Well done for you having lots of sex but honestly ... There are lots of reasons why people might not want or be able to have more sex.

Stumbly as somebody in the field of psych please ask your medics to check your prolactin levels.

There are drugs out there that will stabilise your mood but at the same time they won't alter your prolactin levels which I would put money on is why your libido is low.

We are supposed to ask men & women about whether their libido has been affected by meds so if they have asked you then they aren't doing their job properly !

I'd love twice a day. I've never been in a relationship where it's been all.day/weekend. My ideal would be a monogamous man into kink with a high sex drive....

My partner doesn't seem to actually have the umph to want it or initiate it very often. I think it would be weeks :( will soon want it if I initiate but only once or twice a week.

I really struggle with feeling rejected.

BF and I have sex about 6 times a week. We see each other for 4 nights. We both have a bit of kink about us and we are perfectly matched. Have been together 6 months.

Aargh why do I click on these threads! I never learn! So depressing. But happy for all those getting lots of action

Puppy yep, so jealous
The last time I had sex I got pregnant.. nearly 4 years ago yay

Seriously envious here too!

Once a fortnight if I'm lucky, DP has a low sex drive but I'd happily go twice a day no problem at all!

And we're meant to be trying for a baby...!

I tried to start a thread a while back about dealing with the feelings. Logically I know husband just has a low drive and doesn't think about it so much. Emotionally it feels like rejection and I want to be desired and wanted!!

Chokehold
Sorry got distracted with the festivities. I've literally tried all I can think of... these are a few over about 2 years with good and bad patches between....
The first time I just casually mentioned over dinner that we didn't seem to be doing it much anymore... it kind of phased out. That went down like a lead balloon. He went quite closed and tried to change the subject.

Another time I literally just went crazy after he had turned me down and shouted at him. I accused him of cheating etc as couldn't understand why things had changed. This just made him very defensive.

About a year ago I just burst into tears and explained how I felt and how much it was upsetting me and he was really upset at how I felt. This time we talked it through and things were pretty good for a while.

Most recently I wrote him a short letter which explained that as much as I love him I'm not sure if things can carry on unless this changes as I feel like my confidence is being damaged and I'm just totally not satisfied with the lack of intimacy. Don't get me wrong there is lots of affection but I've realised how important that intimacy is and I'm sick of pretending it's ok. It isn't.

We are seeing how things go.

One thing I would say is that it is that it feels embarrassing that I've had to bring this up to him so many times. Least attractive thing in the world trying to talk someone into sleeping with you. This could easily be the thing to split us up.
Sorry it got long!!

Can't remember the last time we did it. But it used I be 2-3 times a week, Friday Saturday and Sunday if I was lucky. . He never ever wanted it in the week after we had been together for a while.

But I'm the same as you op. If I for twice a day!

We do it about once a week and don't even have kids. I feel a bit sad after reading how much everyone else is doing it.... How do you have time? I am up at 5 for work, neither of us are home much before 8 or 9pm in the eve and then I'm pretty tired.

Jealous reading this!

My DW would be happy with once a year! So I generally have sex once every 3 months or so and about 3 times a week with my hand

She completely changed sexually once the kids came along! Vanilla as could be and zero interest.

Zzzzzzzz

Tbf the 5-10 wasn't always piv, I imagine if we had stayed together longer it would have calmed right down.

We grabbed every opportunity, when cooking dinner, going to bed before leaving house and lounging in between.

I'm not having any these days

Been together nearly 2 years. Got 2 kids at home. Both of us have a high sex drive. Probablyou average 3 times per day.

magpie and G1arffe I understand. My ex and I were together for a long time and he had zero interest in sex with me the last few years. I felt so rejected and hurt and my confidence really took a knocking over it. In fact I went so far as to write him a letter too and felt humilated as if I were begging for sex Mismatch in sex drives is a big thing and impacts in other parts of your relationship.

Mini if I counted piv sex it would be zero, we are both female