Do you think there's Mr Right now ?

[Newbrummie]

If you're having fun, it's a mutually beneficial relationship but deep down you know it's unlikely you'll be doing the crossword together in your dotage, but you're ok with that. If you protect your assets etc too.

Your child takes the piss out of him? Why are you allowing that? That jumps out at me above anything else! How rude!

Your kids have enough upset and drama in their lives without you dragging in a man that you don't care that much for.

If he's good for now, then fine - as long as he knows. But in that case, keep him away from your kids as it's not right to let them bond with him and then you just dump him. Nobody knows a relationship will last, but when you know it won't - don't drag your kids into it.

Is this the man that dumped you recently? If he's not and he's a new one, he shouldn't have even met your kids. If he's the one who had practically proposed (I think I have the right poster) then it's pretty nasty to string him along.

If my dh thought I wasnt good enough for him and his child made fun of me for not being intellectual enough I would feel absolutely gutted and heartbroken. Especially if he allowed dc to continue to treat me so badly. Please be honest with him. I feel so sorry for him .

Fine as long as he knows where he stands and you're honest with him.

Wonder what the response would be like if a man posted a thread like this here.

My kids have met one man in four years since I split with ex, this one. He does "joke" about proposing but it would be awkward if he did because he knows it would be an outright no.
Children are back home now, thanks for asking. All good.
And eldest DD takes the piss out of him to me, I wouldn't stand by whilst she ridiculed him to his face.

I don't think generally people joke about proposing. He may not mean "will you marry me?" by a joke proposal. But he could mean "I'm feeling insecure about this - I'm really into you and want you to know I'm serious but I'm not sure how you feel and this might flush that out a bit whilst hopefully showing you that I like you".

I don't think it's fair to string along a man who is serious about you, and I think that a joke proposal could well show that he is.

Hope the children are doing well!! I have been thinking about them and if things go sorted.

I think it's best not to string him along, I know you said he has a good deal too. But isn't it worth waiting for someone who you do see the rest of your life with?
If you know it will end at some point,I'd end it now. And take time to help yourself and to focus on you and the children. The last thing you want is to throw this guy in the mix

And I hate to say this but I think I've seen on another thread you don't like being alone ( I could be well off on that) although it might be filling your needs, think about you and your children. As much as I crave it sometimes, I couldn't see somebody like this, he sounds a good guy. You should want someone you could see yourself settle down with and fit into family life. Don't drag the guy along. Take some time out