Hello
I am a man (obviously) please don't think I am some sort of weirdo, I have joined this site as I need some female perspective on an issue my wife and I are having.
I'll try to keep it short. I am 40, my wife is 35. She is from France but has been living/working here in the UK for 12 years. We met five years ago and have been married for 3.
The issue we have is that she absolutely doesn't trust me (she is convinced I am cheating on her) nothing could be further from the truth. My wife is (and I can say this quite objectively) stunning looking. I am punching well above my weight and I know it. But we met and jelled and when I asked her to marry me (first and only engagement/marriage for both of us) she said yes.
It allowed to stem from an incident which happened a few weeks after we met. I took her to a works night out to introduce her to my colleagues. At the end of the night I agreed to give a lift home to two guys I work with. And as Was driving out of the carpark I stopped to say goodbye to some other colleagues. There is a girl I have worked closely with for years before I met my wife (she is married with a kid) and when we said goodbye we have exchanged a peck on the lips (think formal polite weird Aunt type peck). We have always done this and to be honest I had done it before I had even realised (sorry I should point out that my colleagues husband was stood beside her at the time).
My wife brings this incident up on literally a weekly basis and makes comments like "oh maybe you should ask/go to/call/f@$k Fiona then".
I literally can't say anything which will make her stop doing this. I have tried ignoring it, explaining it, arguing about it but it's futile. She just won't stop bringing it up.
Also my wife demands to know where I am every waking moment. Five mins late from work will result in non stop phone calls. She frequently literally grabs my phone from my hand and goes through every text and asks me to explain any she isn't happy with.
Was the thing with my colleague really so innapropriate? To me it was normal social interaction but to honest I have been listening to my wife for so long that I have lost all sense of perspective about the issue.
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Perspective needed please.
MrManMan · 21/12/2016 17:18
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