Keeping my name and title

[butterfly92]

If i get married can i still call myself miss instead of mrs and keep it on all important documents and paperwork? Cos i want to keep my surname as well

My h and I are both Dr. But both our own surnames. Causes some confusion here snd there - don't care. Relatives on his side assume I've got his name. They are in their 90s I think I'll give them a pass.

Doik, I don't really count the years before 16. I can see why it would look like a change to the op as I am assuming she's over 16

However, she could just tell people she's had an epiphany. If we only stuck with Ms and Mr....but of course we are going back to the 1950s so I give up really.

I am married and have been for many years. I am still addressed as Miss at work (and I am not a teacher ha). I don't think it actually matters what your title is. However my dh hates it...as though it somehow makes a statement of our relationship. I have tried to explain it's industry norm. He also hates Ms though. Which I find hilarious. Who could care less? A title should not define who we are these are all things that society puts on us, would we feel any different to have no title at all??

Appropriate?!!
People still think we need to 'appropriate'?

When a title is demanded on a form and not ignorable, I was Miss as a child, Miss as an unmarried adult, Miss (my surname) as a married woman and am now Miss as a divorcée.
I am engaged and might change my name this time. Maybe. If I feel like it. Whereupon I shall be Miss (his name).
I can never be bothered with Ms though fair play to those who choose it.

And you know what?
If someone sees Miss and thinks I'm not married... I DON'T GIVE A FUCK!!!!!

Any more than I have bothered to correct a utility company who think I am a man.

You see, to be assumed as single, married, divorced, whatever - it doesn't matter. Because none is better or worse.

I'm unmarried and in my 40's and insist on miss.

Ultimately it's your choice.
I was a miss until I got married at 22, then I took my husbands name and became known as Mrs husbands name.
However if I had chosen to keep my own name after getting married, I would have taken the title of ms.
I wouldn't want to be know as miss if I'm actually married.

Boils my piss that there's still such mysogeny around this. It's 2016 and yet aren't expected to change their names, whereas it's automatically assumed women will. Men don't have to announce their marital status with their title, but women who chose not to are called names.

And women are falling over themselves to keep it going, because it's "tradition". It was tradition for all of a woman's teeth to be pulled out prior to marriage. Don't see many people rushing to do that!

When I got married I changed my name to Mrs Hisname but it never felt like me
I've now changed it back to Miss Myname, did it by deed poll. It may not be important to some but when I look at my driving licence or my bank cards and see my own name it makes me feel proud to be me, not some man's chattel

There was no need to deed poll it - you never lost your name!

You can of course use Mx which is for everyone irregardless of marital status or gender

"There was no need to deed poll it - you never lost your name"
True, but some institutions needed to see my birth certificate to prove it and I've lost mine so a deed poll was cheaper than a replacement birth certificate (as it was free)

You can call yourself what you please.

I'm not married and refer to myself as 'Miss', never 'Ms', I think it sounds uptight.

I'm married and use Ms. I don't care whether people think I'm married or not; it's none of their business. They wouldn't be wondering if I was a man.