Keeping my name and title

[butterfly92]

If i get married can i still call myself miss instead of mrs and keep it on all important documents and paperwork? Cos i want to keep my surname as well

I always use Ms. But I get addressed as Mrs, Miss, and occasionally Dr (which I'm not) which I can't be bothered to correct. It's never yet caused any problems, even with financial things. I don't think your title is actually part of your legal name. Do yes, I think you can call yourself Miss if you want (though personally I'd go for Ms as it supports the cause of women not being judged by their marital status)

Is it? I am getting old.

Lorelei, while I agree that it would be different if it were used more often I was always Miss previously so for me personally it would still have implied a change of 'status'. I think this would be different if young girls were address as Ms, in the same way that young boys are also addressed as Mr these days.

I'm married and I kept my surname and remain a Miss. Sometimes people refer to me as Mrs and assume my surname is my husbands name. Sometimes I'm referred to as Ms. My BIL and SIL send cards as if I had my husbands (their) name. I don't know if they know I haven't changed my name.

I just don't care about any of it really

Old fashioned to assume Ms is a divorcee or a lesbian?! I've always gone with Ms since around 19 - HATE Miss and Mrs - my marital status is my business and mine alone!

Happily these days Ms seems to be the norm for addressing women particularly in work. Ms for the win!

I applied for my student loan as "sister" Icy... I lived on a st Luke's road at the time so it did sound like a bit like a convent.made no difference - loan payments made it through,... Suspect NI number counts for more....

alice

Why wouldn't someone born in 1992 be allowed to get married?

Doik, op could just say she's decided to use Ms as the Mr equivalent with no associations.
I've been Ms since 16, only on MN have I heard people say they thought it meant divorced.

I'm married and use Miss

I'm married, in my 40s and either a miss or dr. I think a change in title is a change of marital status. So to me I accept either the one I was born with or the one earned. The later is Dr obviously.

Historically miss meant a young women, Mrs an old woman.

Nothing to do with marriage.

When I divorced I kept my married surname as I felt it was easier to be same as my son, but changed to Miss as I didn't want to be Mrs as not married.

If I see Mrs, I assume married. If I see Miss or Ms, I don't assume anything but not sure it matters to be honest.

You can call yourself what you like.

Personally I've always been Ms Myname and I don't give a stuff if anyone thinks I'm a lesbian or a divorcee.

My husband is Mr Hisname and no one has ever thought he was gay or divorced because of his name.

I agree Lorelei, but what I was trying to say was that men do not change from master to mister these days, they are always Mr, so while Ms does not imply marital status it can still imply age/choice/something unless all young girls are also addressed as Ms. I was always Miss, and so changing to Ms on marriage would still have been a change in how I was addressed. Not sure if I'm expressing myself very well.

I've never really considered before that aren't all titles completely useless and archaic!

I'm divorced but have reverted back to my maiden name and use Miss, it's annoys me if I am addressed as Mrs or ms

I've been Ms (or Miss) Me for 39 years, since birth, despite marrying DH 12 years ago. It's yet to cause any problem.

I think this would be different if young girls were address as Ms

My 8 year old DD has always been Ms.

I got married earlier this year and kept my name with Mrs as a title. So far I think only 1 Christmas card hasn't been addressed to Mr & Mrs Hisname and 1 addressed to our first names only. I was amused initially then slightly disappointed and resigned to the fact that these prejudices are ingrained.

Then I got a cheque made out to Mrs Hisname!!!!!

Bit rude to assume anything in my opinion.

I have a relative who sent DD a card and cheque for her birthday - cheque made out to me as Ms Me to cash for her. So she knows what name I use.

A week later a birthday card arrives for me addressed to Mrs DH's initial DH's surname! .

I sent the fucking thing back.

I got married back in the mists of time and became Mrs I felt silly and practically none of my friends called me that. We split up. My first practical action was to revert to my name. I used Ms . I married DH and remained Ms . The dc's birth certs have AKA

As others have said, you can keep your name or change to anything you feel like using.

We get cards from DH's family addressed to Mr & Mrs DH's Name. I never open them, they always get placed carefully on his computer because, clearly, they are from someone who doesn't know me so why would I open them

Once had a cheque from MIL, present the money for DDs. She was adamant that she had made it out to me and that I was being awkward. She reluctantly changed her tune when I showed her - look, this says HENRY Hisname

The one that annoys me more is that now I'm in my 40s I'm automatically a Mrs Myname by people who don't know I'm married or have children. I'm mean people like the tyre shop, the car hire place. Or a tradesperson I rung up. Mrs does have the connotation of an older woman. You will automatically be called it by all who don't know you once you are old enough. Enjoy being a young Miss while you can!

Suburban because I'm refusing to accept that it's 2016 and 1992 was 24 years ago.
I was a teenager in the nineties and I would like to think that wasn't long ago!
On the other hand I don't feel like women's place in society has moved on much since then, so maybe that's why I feel like I'm stuck in a time warp.

I didn't take my husband's name and cringe if anyone calls me mrs because that's my mum!

We get lots of Christmas cards addressed to mr and Mrs but that's ok - only so much space on a card envelope after all.

I've actually been thinking more and more about hyphenating my name with his (which is what we did for ds) but he refuses to change his name too so I think I'll probably just stick with my name.

I was always miss before marriage and ms afterwards. Only reason I was miss before was because I have an older sister with the same initial as me and she "bagsied" ms when we were older teenagers to differentiate post.

I really don't think it matters, but people saying that you can have whatever title you like are wrong. You can't call yourself Dr. Whatever unless you are actually a Dr. I think that would be dangerously misleading in some situations! But ms, miss, mrs... I don't think it matters when men are just mr all the time regardless of marriage.