Are these red flags?

[CakeLover0]

Or should I 'chill' as he tells me.
1st date - coffee and general chit chat. I was going out that night and he offered to pick me up. I said no its ok. He text through the evening and a replied only once as I was with friends. He seemed really eager. There was me thinking oh he wants to see me. The end of the night I drunkenly agreed. Did NOT ask him in even though he wanted to.
Next day arranged date 2. He then was hinting to come to mine instead. I said NO I would like to go out. He was all lovely saying of course. Where etc....I agreed to another coffee. On the Sunday.
He cancelled 2 hours before saying his children were there but hadn't mentioned this previously as he has them every other weekend. OK fine not that eager today. We arranged an evening out so texting through the week. He texts alot.
Met him Friday. Got a new top, had my nails done and really excited as i NEVER go out and arranged a sitter and a lift. 2 hours in he was asking me back to his. I have chatted about my life and children but he doesn't ask.
We were chatting about relationships and he says he doesn't see the need to tell someone he loves them every day. It means nothing then. He also said his ex called him emotionally numb all of the time.
Anyway I didn't go back to his. I want more than just that and not 100% sure of his intensions.
Date 3 hasn't been arranged. It's only Tuesday. He is on a dating site. He 'jokingly' said he stays on there incase someone else better comes along but obviously if we date more seriously he would come off it. He made it out to be funny.

Ugh don't bother seeing him anymore. He just wants a fuck. You've only been on a few dates, quit while your ahead.

Run now....

You've obviously got concerns which you need to listen to . It all sounds a bit 'difficult' to me.

Next !

I'm not sure what your difficulty is, he sounds boring and he's clearly just after a shag. If that's not what you want, then don't bother seeing him again.

It feels difficult. Apparently it's not supposed to feel difficult.
Wasn't sure as I am absolutely rubbish at dating.....

incase someone else better comes along

No it's not supposed to be difficult !

You're not rubbish Op. He's a twat, who just wants to bang you.

Run, run, run

yep, agree with everyone else. He just wants a shag.

Shag written all over him, how sad.

I feel 10 times better already! Thankyou
He is chatty via text and seems like a good dad. Own home etc. I also really fancied him. I wasn't looking either.
Never mind eh!

Don't bother. He sounds like an immature knob.

Red flags a plenty here re this person, I note his ex called him emotionally numb all the time.

Do not see him any longer.

Work on you more particularly if you yourself feel you are rubbish at dating. What is your approach to relationships, it may need a complete reassessment. Learn about boundaries in relationships, red flags and raising your relationship bar a lot higher. Read websites like Baggage reclaim.

Raise your bar a lot higher OP; you have no idea of what this person is really like and your boundaries seem way off centre as well.

To think he seems like a good dad at this early stage is also premature, why did you at all think that?.

Bad experience in dating. I'm using too quick in judging when it comes to dating but blamed my confidence. Been working on that lots. So I was trying not to read into things. Ha and chill I guess. I was feeling something was off but kept in contact because I question my own reasoning sometimes but really trying to work on this.
He talked alot about them and said he had them lots. He showed me pics of holidays last year. Spoke about camping trips. What he was getting for Christmas. Sent pics of his decs etc. Text when he was at football with them. I don't know just a feeling.

Cake

Work on you more and consider counselling as well to unlearn all the rubbish you have learnt about relationships along the way. Women's Aid's Freedom Programme may be useful to you if any previous relationships have been abusive in nature.

You knew something was off re him, that is progress and shows your boundaries are not as skewed as perhaps they were previously. But it still needs work.

Re this individual you were seeing I would think his ex would tell a very different story.

He might be a good dad, that doesn't mean he's a good partner

I'd like to hear what his ex has to say about him being a good dad.

Are you serious OP? Do you really want to see this chap again? Get back to the dating site would be my advice!

When I read my post back. No!
It's like I knew deep down but wanted to ask advice on here.
Within minutes of posting I felt better. I'm not on a site anymore. He was someone I exchanged numbers with a year ago. He reappeared......

Sound alike he wanted a shag and will stay oin a dating site, promising he wants a relationship to people when really.... He wants a shag.

In other words.... He's a cunt.

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Emotionally numb?

RUN..........

I have run.....

Come to think about it. Why would he tell me this. Actually admit to it?! Basically telling me he doesn't have any emotion.
Also randomly text me Sunday to say we're you wearing (perfume name).Friday? I said no it was another. I asked why and he said oh just buying perfume for the ex off the children. I thought that was an odd thing to text. This is me though I question everything. I wish I could chill!