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Original poster

Would you be annoyed if your boyfriend was on a works night out and didn't text you?

50 replies

ringaling · 10/12/2016 21:52

Having a girls night with a friend and her boyfriend is out for a works Christmas night out.
He hasn't text her since 6pm and she's upset.
It's a works night out and no partners...just a meal and drinks.
In all honesty she's driving me insane..I wouldn't care at all.
Would you?

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Redglitter · 10/12/2016 21:53

She's out for the night and so is he yet she still expects him to text her. She sounds very needy.

kilmuir · 10/12/2016 21:53

No , I wouldn't be bothered

Cosmicglitterpug · 10/12/2016 21:54

No.

OohhThatsMe · 10/12/2016 21:54

What's he meant to text her about? I'd find that annoying, tbh.

elQuintoConyo · 10/12/2016 21:55

Nope. I couldn't give less of a poop. If i go out I don't text DH unless it's to say: on way home - bit drunk Grin

Original poster
ringaling · 10/12/2016 21:55

I've told her she's going to drive him away.
It's like talking to the wall.
She wants to text him and ask if he is having a good night ...I've said no leave him be.

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TooStressyForMyOwnGood · 10/12/2016 21:55

Not remotely annoyed, no.

girlelephant · 10/12/2016 21:56

She is BU. They both should be having too much fun with the people they are with! She can speak to him tomorrow and sounds very high maintenance if she expects constant interaction

GinIsIn · 10/12/2016 21:56

No, of course not! Unless DH has said he'll be back for dinner and I'm not sure what time to put the oven on, I really don't think it matters - I'm his wife, not his keeper! Grin

TwitterQueen1 · 10/12/2016 21:56

Oh FFS. Is he not allowed to have a good time on his own? Can't believe this kind of insecure neediness. It would immediately turn me off. What does she want him to say? Having a lovely time hun? wish you were here?

Tell her to get a grip and let him enjoy a night out.

Kr1stina · 10/12/2016 21:56

No

MyKingdomForBrie · 10/12/2016 21:57

I like to know he's still alive if he isn't home by 2ish but it wouldn't be a big deal!

YoullNeverWeeAlone · 10/12/2016 21:57

Pisses me off when DH texts me from a night out. I don't need to know about it.

Mind you, I get even crosser when he texts me when I'm out to ask where I am etc.

Original poster
ringaling · 10/12/2016 21:57

Maybe the garlic bread doesn't have enough garlic on? Ha ha
I really shouldn't laugh but I've had 2 hours of should I text ? Should I not?

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OlennasWimple · 10/12/2016 21:57

No, only if there was something specific to say (such as "On the 11:20 train home")

Remind her that it was only 15 or so years ago that they probably wouldn't both have had phones, and even if they did reception was so bad in lots of places that a text wouldn't get through anyway

Lotsofqueries · 10/12/2016 21:57

No I wouldn't care. And if I was I out myself I probably wouldn't think to text either.

Misspilly88 · 10/12/2016 21:57

Definitely not.

GriefLeavesItsMark · 10/12/2016 21:58

I'd probably be more annoyed if he did text; why would he need to check up on me?

Rainbowqueeen · 10/12/2016 21:59

I'd be surprised if he did text me.

You are right she is going to drive him away

oldestmumaintheworld · 10/12/2016 21:59

What??? My husband could be away for a week and not text. What kind of planet needy is she on.

talksensetome · 10/12/2016 21:59

Nope wouldn't expect it at all. Surely they can survive a whole evening without constant communication.

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 10/12/2016 21:59

Dh didnt text me til he wanted a lift home from the station Smile

Tootsiepops · 10/12/2016 21:59

I also like to know my husband is still alive, and a rough time to expect him home. But other than that, I actually prefer not to hear from him on his rare nights out. I love him a lot, but I also love peace and quiet.

Trills · 10/12/2016 22:00

I would not be expecting any texts unless we lived together, and it was along the lines of "on the 11:20 train home" or "missed the last train, staying at Craig's" as per OlennasWimple's post.

BumDNC · 10/12/2016 22:00

My BF is on a night out now and he text me and I replied initially then when he continued I said 'why are you texting me on your night out you wombat. I'm fine. Go and have fun text me tomorrow'. I'm going to bed anyway. Never ever expect a text at any time. He has a life so do I. I think he is bored on his night out which is why he text but the other weekend he didn't as he was having too much fun the lucky swine