Pls help me how to heal

[Beautiful38]

My ex left me for another woman. Prettier and younger. I realised this guy was just using me. He also told me how to get over him. I always got allot of attention from men when with him at the time he met this other girl, he made me feel ugly by saying he can't understand what men see in me whilst the new girl doesn't get same attention.
I'm finding the pain unbearable, Ithe would have been easier if I hadn't known he left me for someone else who he feels it's his dream woman. Has anyone been through this who can tell me the healing process and how to help heal quickly.

I am finding it hard that he is with someone else and I'm left picking up the pieces and alone. What is that all about?

It's early days darling.
He hasn't left you in a decent way he's stuck the knife in. You will never have answers to your questions. It's hard and it will hurt like hell but you will get through it.

You will find a nice man who will love you for who you are. They are out there not every man is like him.

To a tunisian and many from that type of culture a gf or wife that gets less attention is a better thing, its the muslim culture and modesty intertwined, no matter how they live their lives and how western they are, this concept runs very deep.

Along with the divorced woman thing, he looks down on you and has been doing so the entire time you were together.

His (and many more men like him) attitude towards women is crap but thats how it is.

You need to consider that you had a lucky escape.

He is probably also scared to be alone, hence he had to pick his next victim before he cut you loose. This says far more about him than you.

I don't follow what you mean by that? Why does he need to let me go if he is feeling alone. True he wants a companion but obviously a prettier one.

Beautiful you will get through it.. in time you'll find you think about them less or in more of a removed sense

How long will this process take to heal. I'm going through hell and not able to do my day to day activities.

I'm not over my similar situation and it's been a year. It is v painful but I literally begged my guy not to leave me and it made things worse. You haven't done that. Focus inward only.

It isn't a quick process unfortunately.

Beautiful.. it is hard... and you naturally might be suffering some depression. Can you make an appointment with your gp?

Grieving 4 weeks down the line doesn't make one 'clinically depressed'. Unless of course they are already suffering from depression or have had it in the past.

I am hurting ofcourse and feel like crap. I'm here to ask if other women have experienced anything similar and how they pulled through and how was the process for them. I would like to know what to expect. How others felt what they did to pull through. I have already been told here time is a great healer...

How I've pulled through each time a relationship has broken down...
Gym
Eating healthily
Being organised in the house
Days out with my son
Days out with friends
Distraction
Sometimes counselling
Expect ups and downs/ conflicting emotions/ anger/sadness.. all part of the healing process.
Yes it's very natural to feel as you do...

For me it was real life support.
When I finally told people (wish I'd done that much sooner) it was family and friends who really helped the most.
But I did a lot of crying. Curled up, knees hugged to chest in a dark corner somewhere and just sobbed and sobbed!
Going for long walks and literally screaming into the dead air helped.
The crying lessened and friends and family kept me busy.
Until one day you just don't cry anymore.
You stop analysing, why? What did I do? What could I have done?
The answer was nothing! It was him and his issues and not down to me.
The gym helped a lot as well.
I'd say after 15 years it was probably took nearly a year to feel OK again.
I rediscovered myself. And it all ended up fine.
So yep, time and love and support!

Ohhhhh I'm upset and annoyed.... just when I thought I started dealing with this all, I now dreamt of him and his new gf and now feel incredibly upset. Is this normal?

Yes it is indeed.
For every 2 steps forwards you will take one step back.
But you do keep moving forward in the end.
It's 6+ years since I split with my Ex.
I have a lovely life and love my OH.
However, when I read back things like my previous post, I still get teary.
Get angry, it's normal.
Have a google of the grieving process and all the steps you will have to go through.
It's a long hard road, but there is an end to it!

So it's been two weeks since I wrote this post....I am slightly better. I am unable to cry when I want to. I don't dream about him often and there are times I try to forget it happened. Then suddenly I remember somethings that confirms he is still with her and that hurts. This is the part I'm not coping well with him being with her esp the intimate part. How do I deal with this feeling?