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Cooking for your DP /DH

46 replies

Princesspinkgirl · 06/12/2016 21:01

So just being nosey if your dp is the breadwinner do you make sure there's a meal on the table for him when he gets home from work I do this for my DP as I'm currently not working due to being 37 weeks pregnant DP mum says I spoil him I don't think I do ..

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EllaHen · 06/12/2016 21:04

Well, I am the joint breadwinner of my house and nobody makes me dinner.

Artandco · 06/12/2016 21:06

No.

idontlikealdi · 06/12/2016 21:08

We're joint breadwinners. I cook, he cleans up. I'm better at it.

He does do most of the cleaning though:)

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dementedpixie · 06/12/2016 21:10

No, my dh enjoys cooking so he tends to cook after he gets home from work

Orangedaisy · 06/12/2016 21:10

If I am not working one day and DP is, I will sort dinner. In your exact situation I always had his dinner ready. When baby arrived we shared it. Now I am back at work (I work 3 days, he works 4 long days) I cook when he is at work or gets in later, he cooks when I am at work. When we're both off we decide depending on who feels like it.

ChocoChou · 06/12/2016 21:10

He's the breadwinner, I don't work so I cook (I love cooking anyway). We go out for a night time meal at least once a week and out for lunch maybe three times a week.
If you're happy cooking for him do it, if not - don't, simples!

Crumbs1 · 06/12/2016 21:11

I think different couples sort out arrangements in their own way. I do cooking and used to do most of childcare but only worked part-time. Husband did his fair share - laundry, fetching logs in, cleaning windows and hoovering. Now kids are flown I still cook but he washes up/loads dishwasher. I do shopping but he clears gutters and makes beds. I make his lunch or even drop lunch to his office but then he brings me tea in bed every morning. Swings and roundabouts. Needs to feel fair but also flexible. I work full time now and was late back today so he popped a pizza in the oven - not amazing food but saved me effort. On whole we try and make each other's life easier and more pleasant so don't get too hung up on who does what - it's just evolved.

vvviola · 06/12/2016 21:11

When I was a SAHM I did, mostly. But then I was cooking for everyone and he arranged to be home in time for the dinner time that suited the rest of the family.

At 37 weeks pregnant? I mainly sat on the couch feeling like a whale and got him to reheat stuff I'd made when I was feeling more energetic. Or we got takeaways.

DramaAlpaca · 06/12/2016 21:12

Nope. We are joint breadwinners now & take it in turns to cook. Actually, he probably cooks more than me these days.

When I was on maternity leave or a SAHM we still took it in turns to cook.

DrDreReturns · 06/12/2016 21:13

I'm the breadwinner. My partner cooks during the week when I'm working. I cook at the weekends.

NickyEds · 06/12/2016 21:15

I'm a SAHM and do all of the cooking. Always have, pre dc because I enjoyed it, now because he's spoilt and not used to cooking.

BastardGoDarkly · 06/12/2016 21:16

Yes, I do, I have from being a sahm to now when I'm out evenings working. I want us all to eat together, and he washes up/takes over with kids while I go to work.

Whatever works for your family, and feels fair on everyone, is fair.

witsender · 06/12/2016 21:24

Whoever is home first cooks!

christmaswreaths · 06/12/2016 21:33

My husband does all the cooking and food shopping as well as diy jobs and some tidying, I do all the washing, ironing, organising school stuff, social diary, tidying, hoovering and cleaning.

We have four kids and both work full time

IJustWantABrew · 06/12/2016 21:36

If I don't cook we would survive on takeaways. Not sure he knows how the oven works Confused. I'm on maternity leave so I'm at home anyway, even when I was at work I would still cook. Doesn't bother me and I enjoy it.

Hassled · 06/12/2016 21:37

I'm the cook of the family - because I'm better at it, faster at it, enjoy it and it doesn't involve using every pot if I do it. DH and the kids wash up/clear up afterwards - seems to balance out. We both work - I don't feel hard done by re the cooking. So as long as you both feel that things are roughly "fair" there's no problem what you do.

AlexandraPeppernose · 06/12/2016 21:37

We both work ft although he is the main breadwinner. Whoever gets in first cooks. Everything else is shared depending on who is home when.

AlexandraPeppernose · 06/12/2016 21:37

We both work ft although he is the main breadwinner. Whoever gets in first cooks. Everything else is shared depending on who is home when.

AlexandraPeppernose · 06/12/2016 21:38

We both work ft although he is the main breadwinner. Whoever gets in first cooks. Everything else is shared depending on who is home when.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 06/12/2016 21:39

I'm a WAHP and my husband is full time employed. We have a one year old. He does all food shopping and almost all cooking. DCs meals are batch cooked by him and reheated by me.

HandbagCrazy · 06/12/2016 21:54

I cook for DH, and aim for the time he gets in from work. Nothing to do with him being the breadwinner (he isn't) - it's more practical. If he cooked, we wouldn't eat until gone 8pm by the time he got home. We both have lunch at around 12:30 so are starving when he steps foot in the door at 6:30-7.

I think you're only spoiling him if he begins to expect it, especially when your dc is here

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Princesspinkgirl · 06/12/2016 21:55

I think it's great how everyone works differently in this arrangement i honestly don't mind cooking myself so happy to do it

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MyBonnieLiesOverTheOcean · 06/12/2016 23:20

DH works longer hours than me so I make dinner every week night. Kids and I eat early and leave a plate for him. He enjoys cooking though so does most meals at weekends and all other household tasks are split pretty evenly.

As long as you're happy with your arrangement then what's the problem?

thecrowabby · 06/12/2016 23:33

My dp is a chef and doesn't get home until gone 12 so I make him dinner when I make mine and ds, he cooks for me when he's off though Grin

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