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Cooking for your DP /DH

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Princesspinkgirl · 06/12/2016 21:01

So just being nosey if your dp is the breadwinner do you make sure there's a meal on the table for him when he gets home from work I do this for my DP as I'm currently not working due to being 37 weeks pregnant DP mum says I spoil him I don't think I do ..

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Trifleorbust · 07/12/2016 07:07

Am nearly 40 weeks pregnant so am happy to cook usually as I am off with no baby but if I am feeling really tired I will tell him not to expect dinner. I like to cook for him though as no-one wants to start dinner when they get in if they don't have to.

DoubleCarrick · 07/12/2016 07:15

I currently work evenings so DH is home in the evening to cook. He enjoys it and is mostly the one who does cook. I'm on maternity leave in a week or so and have no idea what will happen then. We'll probably wing it according to who has energy/time

DarkLikeVader · 07/12/2016 07:19

I'm a SAHM and we take it in turns to cook as we always have, for 12 years, no matter which of us was working. Except for Christmas - DH always cooks the Christmas meal. If your arrangement works then good but do watch it doesn't become an expectation, there will be some days when you have been home all day with the baby and you won't manage to cook a meal and he'll need to step up.

JustSpeakSense · 07/12/2016 11:02

My DH is the main breadwinner, but I work part time.

I do most of the grocery shopping and cooking, but he washes up and cleans the kitchen every night, he also does about 50% of the housework and all his own ironing.

I enjoy cooking, he doesn't so it isn't an issue.

NapQueen · 07/12/2016 11:07

Dh gets home at 4.30 and that's crazy early to eat dinner so no.

One of us cooks and the other puts the dcs to bed. Then we eat together about 7

LiveLifeWithPassion · 07/12/2016 11:14

Dh works long hrs and I need to feed the kids so the weekday cooking is usually down to me.
He's perfectly happy to cook himself an omelette or something quick if I haven't though.
He always cooks breakfast for everyone on the weekends and often does Sunday dinner.

xStefx · 07/12/2016 11:18

When we both worked full time this is how we shared the chores:

Me: cleaning and clothes washing
Him: cooking , dishes and bins

When I went part time (3 days instead of 5)
I took over the cooking on the 2 days I didn't work

Just to give you an idea of how we work in our house although I understand everyones different and works differently. The dinner on the table thing has never really been an issue as he likes to shower before he sits down to eat anyway.

GashleyCrumbTiny · 07/12/2016 11:24

I tend to, because he works long days and I tend to have a couple of hours at home while he's working late/doing his massive commute home. It's nicer to be able to sit down and eat when he gets in to enjoy a bit of our evening before bed, rather than have him start cooking. I don't do it because he's the "breadwinner". We both earn and we share chores in the way that's most convenient.

Kel1234 · 07/12/2016 11:27

My dh is a chef so he cooks. But I do most of the cleaning, and all washing and ironing. We shop together.

HairsprayBabe · 07/12/2016 11:52

I met my DP on his second day at uni. His mother cooked for him before we met. He wouldn't starve if he had to cook for himself but his food combos are a bit odd, e.g. I was away with work a few weeks ago so he had pork belly scrambled eggs and rice

I wish in the early days of our relationship I had made him cook more as it is a pain when I cba to cook and don't want an omelette or toast for dinner. He dose wash up and clean though so he isn't totally incompetent.

Ellarose85 · 07/12/2016 12:02

I'm a SAHM, I cook most nights and I'm happy to do this. I enjoy cooking and trying out new things. DP is the better cook though (as much as it pains me to admit it) he also enjoys cooking and will do one or two nights out of the week, normally at the weekend.

wherearemymarbles · 07/12/2016 12:33

If I did the cooking during the week we wouldnt eat till 8.30-9pm as I'm rarely home before 7.30 and we always eat together - part of the day we can chat and catch up.
So its a practical solution as much as anything

hellsbellsmelons · 07/12/2016 12:45

When I was off on Mat leave, yes I used to make dinner.
Something to do during the day.
Plan, shop and cook the dinner.
He used to do all the cooking otherwise and took back over when I went back to work.

TupsNSups · 07/12/2016 12:48

Yes, I cook all meals in this house apart from weekends when dp does fry up for everyone. If I decide not to cook that is dp's cue to go get a takeaway or take us out for tea.

Ice3 · 07/12/2016 13:00

I do now because I found a love of cooking last year. He is a good cook though and before then we shared it.

stumblymonkey · 07/12/2016 13:09

We're the other way round, in the breadwinner (female) and DP is at home (male, looking for job).

I get home at 7.30pm and he makes my dinner every night. When we have DC he will be a SAHP and to be honest I'd then expect to do my share of chores and childcare but would still want DP to cook dinner as I have a four hour commute each day and am shattered by the time I get home.

Also we wouldn't eat until quite late if I had to start preparing dinner at 7.30pm.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 07/12/2016 14:12

I cook for my DP most nights (he does 2 (sometimes 3) nights a week, normally just bunging something in the oven/doing pasta but still!) and I wash up as well. He works longer hours than me, even his shortest day is longer than mine, so seeing as I am there, I'd rather get on and get tea sorted so we don't eat too late. Because I am out of the house 7am-5:30pm and he is more like 5am-7pm in the winter (can be anywhere from 5am-10pm to 5am-3am in the summer) I have time to do the washing up too, so I do, and the hoovering etc before he gets home. I know I do far more than is technically fair, but I am happy and he's happy. More than that, for me anyway, he appreciates what I do, and wouldn't dream of asking why something wasn't done if I didn't have time or just couldn't be arsed.

If you are happy, great, that's what matters.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 07/12/2016 14:13

e.g. I was away with work a few weeks ago so he had pork belly scrambled eggs and rice

this made me laugh!!

6demandingchildren · 07/12/2016 14:15

I wake hubby up with a decent breakfast and a cuppa, and when he gets in from work I have his dinner and a cuppa ready, but on occasion when I'm busy or feeling off he will order dinner (he lives us too much to inflict his cooking on us)

Bananabreadordead · 07/12/2016 14:16

I'm the breadwinner and work longer hours than DP during the week. He cooks all the time during the week, plans our meals and does the shopping. He works on Saturdays so on Saturdays I order takeaway cook for him and usually blitz the cleaning on a Saturday too. During the week we share the cleaning.

mrssapphirebright · 07/12/2016 14:49

me and Dh earn the same. i cook every meal for us (because i am a better cook) and he cleans up / washes up (because he is a gent and is better at cleaning than me).

All other chores are split 50/50. He irons, I hoover. I loads the washing machine / sort dirty clothes, he hangs washing up and puts it away. I dust, he mows the lawn. He changes our sheets, i do my dc's.

'As long as you're happy with your arrangement then what's the problem?'

^^ This

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