Will my dc blame me for a potential divorce if I initiate the split?

[scaredoffallout]

They are 10, 12 and 15.

I am worried that they will be angry with me if I am the one to call it a day? I am sure that h has no interest in me whatsoever but he is capable of carrying on like this forever.

So I will look like the bad guy and they will resent me?

They are also very attached to the house - as is h.

Am having horrible hallucinations of me being the outcast while they all carry on their family life without me. I am sure h's attitude would be that if I initiate the split, I can bugger off.

Hi.Scared,
I think.you need legal advice before you jump. He will.be one to hide his assets.

He knows the writing is on the wall if he's hiding property deals from you. He probably already has his ducks lined up, and you will have to do some sleuthing. It sounds like he won't make it easy for you to leave and maintain your standard of living.

You said you would love him to acknowledge that it's over and you should go separate ways. Is there any way you could sit him down and initiate that conversation and do it in a blameless way? If you can get him to agree that you have both tried and it isn't working then he might be less hostile. Offer him the opportunity to meet someone with whom he might be happy? I separated a few years ago, and my kids have been fine. My ex and I have an amicable relationship and he sees the kids as much as he and they want. Getting him on the same page as you is the most important thing, and working together as a team to ensure you put your kids at the heart of your decisions means the transitions will be less of an upheaval.