How often does your husband go out ?

[lotti37]

Married with kids and was just wondering how often your husband goes out drinking in the evening after work with work colleagues . What do you consider to be reasonable ? He is in his early 50s.thank you

He'll go for a (genuine) couple after work spontaneously every couple of weeks or so.

There are pre planned 'work drinks' every two or so months.

I'm currently on maternity leave with two young DDs and very little social life - I would be a bit hacked off if it was any more frequently than that.

Exactly! Having been up and working hours and commuting all I want to do is put my PJs on but I'd really love to know where others get their magic beans from.. I don't have children so can't even use that as an excuse. I have always been continually exhausted though unfortunately!

Forget, it's not that strange where I live. The lads have all known each other for 30 years or more and the wives have all become mates. We socialise seperately a lot. All still married and no divorces so something works ok. I find it more strange that some people never go out and don't have friends to go out with! Did you all marry loners?

1-2 Nights a week depending on the circumstances, and I do the same. That we we both get at least one night a week where we can get away from the kids and have some "me" time while the other gets one on one time with the kids. The rest of the week we either do things as a family or relax at home.

My DH rarely goes out - he's happy with a glass of red and a good film. I don't go out at all. He has a couple of really good male friends who sometimes call round for a brew and he goes round to their house a couple of times a year but they don't go out drinking.

Very rarely if he travels to see his family if I am working over the weekend. It's happened twice this year. Otherwise we go out together maybe once a month. He's 34, I am 46 but we both work long hours and often work evenings. We like to spend time together when we get chance.

Twit - we have moved all over the place, different countries, different continents and while we have made new friends we haven't really had a good local pub to go to (which I suspect could have made a difference to us going out).

My group of close friends are now all over the world. I have made some new friends but am not really inclined to go out much in the evening.

DH works away a lot - when he is away I am at home with DC - when he is at home (5/12 a year) we like to be together, all of us. If we want to go out alone we do it during the school week as he is at home and I can be really flexible.

I can see how if you live somewhere where you have long standing friends that you have grown up with your 'normal' would be very different but that isn't everyone's 'normal'.

In the evening after work with colleagues? once a month, maybe less?

but by himself? twice a day. He works 2 shifts 5/6 days a week and goes for a coffee at a friend's bar before his evening shift starts and goes for a glass of wine after finishing around 11-12pm. Recently he has started coming home straight from work as he's so knackered. I don't begrudge him though, he works 50-60 hours a week and does all the mornings and one full day with DS so I think he's more than entitled to a bit of me-time whenever he can. Plus I like to have my alone time in the evenings/nights

He doesn't go out for a night of drinking, ever.

He does a martial art and he pops into the pub once every few weeks for one pint with them afterwards, so he is there for about 30 minutes tops.

That is it.

He has social anxiety, going to his martial art takes a lot of strength. He is also a home body.

Dh 1-3 times a week
Me once a week
Dcs are older now so no need for a sitter

Once a year for Christmas work do. And he hates going and wouldn't go unless he absolutely had to!

He's 29 and never been a going out person. He likes to collect and watch 1980s films and collect Lego. Proper nerd territory.

Dh once a week, sometimes twice for his hobby. A few weeks it was 3 times. It's a bit of a bone of contention as when he's not doing his hobby he doesn't get home till gone 8pm as he prefers to work in the office rather than log on at home and we have three kids between 8-4 and two have special needs. But apparently he needs time to himself.

From the other side, DP doesn't go out at all at home, but when he has to travel for work he is out every night until the early hours. I am baffled by this, there is no reason he can't go out normally

Early 50's too. Hardly ever, a few times a year. I try to encourage him as I wouldn't mind a night to myself but doesn't happen.

As often as he wants to. Probably every few weeks or so I guess.

Not very often, prefers to go out as a couple as we don't get to do it that often.

In my industry it's common to be out with colleagues once or twice a week, sometimes with clients. This time of year it's silly season so a lot more then maybe 1 a week socially with a friend

Once or twice a year. He's not got a big social circle locally. If we lived nearer to his hometown/work place he'd probably go out once every other month.

It's so variable. He does a lot of project work so always changing teams. So some years it might just be or twice a year, but when he's with a team he really gets on with it's more often. So lately it's been maybe once a month. I'm a bit more sociable with colleagues. Maybe once every two weeks.

We both go out with friends (separately) at least once a week.

We're married but no kids, so expectations might be a bit different.

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