19 year old DD hasn't even had her first kiss?

[BowlTie]

Would this bother you?

My DD(18) is like this too. It doesn't bother me as such, but I do ocassionally worry maybe it's a confidence thing, but she says she's happy, and has lots of friends, so I leave it at that.

I also think she is trying to do the opposite of what I did (2 DC by her age) and think good luck to her for that- I'd much rather see her focused on her studies and future in the way she is than fixated on relationships and all the associated crap that can go with that.

If she says she's happy then I'd leave her be and let her live her life her way.

I had my first kiss at 13, with the boy I'd been "dating" for 2 years. We stayed together until I was almost 16. Then I was single for a year and met my current partner at 17. I'm 26 now.

If she's happy, I would try not to worry.

Sorry, she is really10yo. By kissing we are talking a peck on the lips rather than proper kissing, but it's her obsession with it that concerns me!

One of her friends has apparently been kissing some of the boys in the toilets since they were about 8 (I flagged this up to their teacher at the time as I was concerned it was very inappropriate but it doesn't seem from what DD says that anything was done about it). My DD is constantly told by her friends she has to have a boyfriend or she will be bullied at senior school. I'm doing by best to counter this and her "bf's" mum is also doing her best quash it from her side, they have both been bullied in the past (by the girl who kisses in the loos) so they are sticking together avoid it happening again.

Apparently she is his 16th girlfriend (he's her first boyfriend)

She did come home yesterday and tell me he was taking her on a virtual date on Pokemon go and I did PMSL

Like I said, I was 19 before I kissed a boy and 21 before I had a real boyfriend so I don't really know how much of this is normal pre teen stuff!

Nothing to worry about. I don't understand what would be concerning about having high standards in boys?

I was always popular with boys and got asked out a lot but wasn't interested in them until I met my DH! I was just happy being single. He was my first everything and it's been wonderful. I don't regret missing out on teenage heartbreak, that's for sure.

I had my first French kiss aged 6/7 from my mum's friend's dh. You need to get it in perspective.

Oh and raped by my first boyfriend aged 19.
You're lucky this is your 'problem'.

I had one kiss at 16 then nothing til 19 when I dived right in with my first blow job it matters not a bit now. She'll catch up.

Don't know why it would bother you that your adult dd hasn't had a first kiss she's an adult it's her business not yours

In and of itself, it's fine.

But a lot of people are assuming that she's 'choosy' or just 'has high standards' which quite frankly might not be true. If she is cripplingly shy, self conscious and not able to take the leap (so to speak) then I would worry.

But I would hazard a guess that you know your daughter well enough to rule those out

My friend is very shy and had her first kiss (drunk) at 21, and is a virgin at 26. I don't know if it bothers her as we don't really discuss it but it does happen!

I had my first kiss at 20 so it wouldn't worry me in itself. The lack of friends would though, I always had a group (small but more than 1 or 2) of very close girl friends. I am so happy I didn't get into any relationships as a teenager as all my memories are of fun times with my friends :)

It wasn't a choice at the time though and it did damage my confidence that no guys seemed to find me attractive. Could your DD be struggling with confidence hence the eating alone?