Social services

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Social services and leaving country. About 2weeks ago me and my hubby got it into a fight which results in him putting his hand on my throat and pushed me I called the police and he was arrested and charged.

Few days after the incident social services called me and said said she'll do a referral for multi agency risk assessment I told her that was fine she also asked about which I told her I decided to drop the charges she didn't understand why I would do that.

I'm 12weeks pregnant and I'm so stressed out so I decided to move back to Ireland,my question is does this look bad to the social services I already told them I will split from husband and they haven't said not to leave.

I'm not none to social services and this is the first time they're involved.

I expect that as long as he is not around they will be satisfied you and the baby are not at risk.

He works here so we'll be in two countries. I'm just worried they'll think I'm hiding something which I'm not I just want to leave all the stress.

Do you have dc or will this be your first?

wait are you leaving him or not?

I have a 3year old.

I am leaving him.

I think they'll see it as a woman who was assaulted getting as far away from the bastard as she can! Which they would hope would happen.

I would contact ss and notify them of your intention to move back to Ireland without your husband. Transparency with ss is your best course of action, as it may seem peculiar if you quietly slip away. If you're registered with a midwife you should also make her aware.

sorry I read that as you splitting time between two countries. I agree with Jen it looks like you are making a clean break.

They don't share information. Nobody will know.

I suggest you act on HappyBunny's advice and be aware that your current local authority SS may refer your case to the Department of Social Protection in Ireland,

Is he the 3 year old's dad? If he is, you can't take him/her out of the country without his dad's consent or a court order.

Yes he is but my dad told him I'm moving to Ireland and he said he's ok with it as long as when the no contact order is removed I don't restrict him from seeing her.

The lady from SS didn't leave a number with me so I don't know who to call her.

When are you planning to move?

The lady from SS didn't leave a number with me so I don't know who to call her.

Phone the duty desk at your local authority's children's services.

Ok. So the fucker is going to try to maintain contact? You won't have to worry about his UK past as he will do it again in Ireland. It is literally a matter of time. It's shite but it's reality.

Friday.

If he is, you can't take him/her out of the country without his dad's consent or a court order.

Well, you can... whether he challenges it after it has happened is a different issue.

Are your family going to be supportive?

I would assume that the 'no contact order' prohibits your h from having contact with you and does not apply to your dd.

Who/what authority imposed this order and do you know when it will expire?

"Well, you can... whether he challenges it after it has happened is a different issue."

Well yes. Up to 7 years imprisonment if convicted though.

They are not imposable outside of the address cited, let alone in Ireland.

Do we have many parents with care convicted and sentenced for taking their DC out of the country to protect them from an recorded abuser?

Don't drop the charges

I've no idea, ShitMom, but is it that sensible to egg someone on to commit a crime on the basis that you don't reckon she would get sent to prison because reasons?

And he's hardly a "recorded abuser" if there's one alleged incident, and charges were dropped.

OP, you should get his consent in writing, if humanly possible.

I didn't egg her on. I pointed out that you were incorrect. She can take the child without his consent. Physically she can. What that would mean would be up to her to investigate before making any decisions.

And yes, it is on record that he assaulted her. The police don't scrap what they have. They may well proceed with the prosecution themselves. They don't need OP to agree.