My mums entire "family" just disowned me 2 days ago.
I've had severe OCD since i was 5, depression since 14. I'm 27 now.
My mum died after a shock terminal cancer diagnosis in June 2010. She was youngest of 4 kids, grandad passed when i was little, gran still living.
Her 2 sisters, her brother and my gran all promised to look out for and take care of me, my (also OCD and depression suffering) big sister and our dad.
As soon as she died, family nowhere to be seen. Her brother, one sister, all 3 of her siblings partners, and kids (so my aunts uncles and cousins) have never sent me so much as a single text. I get maybe 5 a year off my other aunt, and same off my gran. No support when my sister was in intensive care and nearly died, none when i was so ill i was suicidal. I can count the times i've seen any of them on my fingers with digits to spare. Mums oldest sister is VERY selfish, attention always has to be on her, even on other peoples big days. E.g my mum graduated off a course, she overtook the photos dictating what pics she wanted, and told everyone who would listen how she just auditioned for Britains got talent. I've been almost 100% housebound for a decade, can't go out doing fun things, def no holidays, it's frustrating and gutting. Without fail when i do see her she corners me to brag about all her holidays (has at least 2 foreign ones a year), how brilliant they are, all the things she did on them, what new ones she has coming up, what concerts and trips and activities shes got planned and how excited she is etc. This inevitably really upsets me and feels like i'm having my nose rubbed in it that she can do all the things she desires whilst i can do none. My mum asked her to stop doing this whilst she was still alive. After she did it again a few weeks ago i decided i no longer wanted contact with her. I worked up the courage (major social anxiety even texting people) and told her that due to her lack of support like she promised my mum, and her acting incredibly insensitively around me being ignorant of my situation and being selfishly braggy, i no longer wanted her to be a part of my life. I was aware she'd tell aunt 2 and gran, but i didn't expect them to gang up on me being abusive. Both repeatedly tried to call me, and ignored my texts explaining my anxiety is really bad atm and i wasn't up to calls. One reply off aunt 2 was basically "well i dont care because i want to speak to you" and continued trying to call. I did reply that if it was due to my text to other aunt she was trying to call, it didnt involve her and i wasnt willing to discuss it. Cue a really viscious voicemail from my gran, i only got through the seething first line of "you lying little bastard" before i threw the phone and deleted the message out of shock at her tone and language. Next day aunt 2 sends nasty repeatedly name calling text. I replied to her, detailing how let down and abandoned i've felt for the last 6 years, how their not even inviting me to entire family get togethers and parties made me feel unwanted and cast out, and that ifelt my mum would be really ashamed of them all. I didn't reply to my gran because shes had some physical ill health and despite her nastiness i don't want to stress her, but i knew that they would both continue sending nasty messages, so i blocked them both. I ended up calling my provider in a blind panic and changing number because i realised they still had my number, and they'd get my uncle, or one of my cousins to message and carry on the abuse, and i couldn't block them as i don't have their numbers. At least i won't get any crappy kids nail polish/make up sets (the ones that are about £4 in B&M) when i wear neither, or really ugly totally not my style T-shirts and other cheap random un useable tat from them now like every other christmas.