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My best friend is friends with someone I don't like

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tellmefriends · 09/11/2016 20:06

My best friend is friends with someone I don't like, can't stand. My fren knows and acknowledged my feelings and also said I'm more important than them. But still going out with the other person. Am I being a silly to feel kind of jealous and uncomfortable with this friendship...

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RubySmith · 25/11/2018 19:26

I totally understand this. We used to be a group of three. Me and one of the girls had a massive argument while at school, she turned into a completely different person, I couldn’t even understand how I could ever have been friends with her. My best friend went to a different school to us so didn’t see how the other girl was treating me, it was seriously one of the hardest times in my life, made worse by the fact I didn’t know what I’d done to make her hate me and the fact that she was still friends with my best friend. Every now and then I see them hang out and it just really hurts, I know I’m her bestest friend, she’s reassured me, but I still feel horrible sometimes. Sometimes I catch myself while hanging out with her, thinking about whether I’m being as fun as the other girl, it’s horrible. I don’t want her to drop a friend because me and that person fell out. It’s a horrible situation :(

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JB524 · 01/10/2019 18:35

Question. How did they harras you? Was it traumatizing yrs later?

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JB524 · 01/10/2019 18:39

Did you tell your other friend how she changed and how she had been treating you?

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Interestedwoman · 01/10/2019 18:43

This happened with a friend of mine- 2 or more of us didn't like a friend of hers because she was cold and nasty. Eventually she was like this to my friend too.

Don't worry, if she's like that, it's only a matter of time before she's also like it to your friend, and they lose touch.

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JB524 · 01/10/2019 19:02

Old thread but well said. I'm in a similar situation right now. A friend whose friends with someone they know picked on & bullied me. They even went to defend me against them once & now they're FB friends. Idk who added who first but it bothers me. Sometimes ppl add ppl on there they cant stand to be petty & si they can see how their lives are vs there's. That's not me. Back to my "friend" I've chosen to keep my distance.