Past

[Icky871]

How much do you discuss with you hb? I'm trying to find a middle ground

It hasn't gone well for me when I have been honest I have found it hard to explain things and then got kind of swept up in numbers and not reasons - I had a very difficult childhood and was quite vulnerable so some of my past is not what it seems on the surface.

DW and I both know about the last ones we had before we met, plus I know about one of her earlier ones ( because I went to school with him ), but that's all. Why should either of us want, or need, to know any more?

OP there are red flags here because any decent man will accept that your past is just that, the past. It's what shapes us and makes us what we are today.

He shouldn't be judging you on your past.

It's the present that matters.

Did the change happen gradually or all of a sudden?

Your husband is an abusive person

Depends how receptive a partner is, i've had rl's without going into any detail and one where it seemed to bother him a little bit, he did ask and he got over it but also he got a kick out of asking what I did with anyone else while dtd.

Only let people know what you are comfortable with and if you think he will throw it in your face then don't bother.

You shouldn't be punished for your past whatever it may be.

He's a cunt.

If he is insecure, that's because of his issues not because of your behaviour.

Refuse point blank to discuss any past sexual experiences with him. Tell him that his bizarre reactions mean you felt the need to lie but now you've realised that was wrong and you should have just told him to mind his own business or discuss it with his therapist.

Whatever you wore that he objected to, wear it again, wear nothing else, until he realises that you could be wearing something Christina Aguilera would reject as being a bit too much but it doesn't mean you would cheat on him.