Why is the thought of our parents having sex so awful, even though we're in our 30's?

[sandyballs]

I mean it's not like we're giggly childish teenagers.

A friend was telling me how her parents spent the weekend with her recently. Her father had been working away a lot and they were obviously looking forward to seeing one another at their daughters house .
They disappeared upstairs on the first night and she could hear all this giggling, then her mother came downstairs in an little nightie and asked if she had a spare condom ... "You know I haven't seen your father for a few weeks darling". My friend was aghast and I was in stitches when she told me. God knows why she wanted a condom, she must be in her early 60's .

Well of course the grown-up response should have been to be pleased that your parents have a healthy fulfilled relationship and say "Of course mum, help yourself they're in the bathroom. Have a good time!"

But the natural response (no matter how old) is to think 'Yeucchhhhh', mumble incoherently and run out to the kitchen to so some unneccesary washing up .

Why? I don't know. It just is!

My ILs are terrible when you visit them for the weekend. They pop into the TV room at about 7pm and breathlessly giggle 'er...could you all go and watch your film in the kitchen because me and your Dad are going to ... er... well, we'll be upstairs and... well, now you know... creak creak" giggle, giggle... FIL slaps MIL on the bottom, winks suggestively, we all want to die on the spot. You get the gist. Crikey, I'm their DIL and I've caught them at it on the kitchen table/floor/bathroom mat. DH, his BILs and SIL think it's hilarious and are pleased that their parents are so much in love/lust after 30 years.

As far as my parents are concerned, they've only done "it" 3 times: one practice, once when my DB was conceived, once when I was conceived. I refuse to believe otherwise.

[fingers in ears]

the thought of 2 "sagged wrinklies" at it makes my guts churn tbh

lol, My sister, her DH and my parents were all on holiday a few months ago. Dad came out the bathroom and said 'oh I noticed your condoms in the bathroom 'I have noticed that they sell them at the onsite shop, 3 for a £1!!!!, so if you ever get caught short you can get them there' My sister nearly died herself when he said that....

i think that's lovely. I look forward to embarrassing DS by doing that when he's older. Even if i'm not really going to have sex.

Because they are selfish and don't want us to have as much fun as them.

My DH and I find ourselves giggling like naughty schoolkids if my DD is staying over at our house. Then there's the problem of keeping the silly grin off my face next morning.

Oh Lord when will I be a boring grown-up

If you met my parenst you would know that it is totally implausible that they have ever had sex - I'm sure I and my siblings were secretly adopted!

Also boggling as to why they need to use a condom lol!

Apparently my parents dont. My mum tells me all about it...

I dont find it awful, tbh though. As I get older, I realise that my mindset has changed in so many ways - this included.

ewwwww

my sis (15) was saying something about walking in on my mum and dad a few weeks ago,

i just told her to shut up

my mum was trying to explain they werent doing 'it' they were just ...shut upppp i screamed

i dont want to know what they were just doing

When me and my sis were about 14 and 12 we went on holiday to a caravan site with my dad and our step mum ( they wasn't married at the time). In the middle of the night me and my sis woke to the caravan rocking!

It was horrible! we knew exactly what they were doing but my sis still insisted on going in their room

There she found my step mum onb top of my dad

she came running back and she told me what she saw.

My dad came in shortly after to make sure she was ok and i pretended to be asleep as it was embarassing enough!

my dad asked me the next day if my sis told me what she saw i just said erm, no!

yuck yuck yuck!

Wouldn't bother me but I would probably have burst out laughing. Obviously the mind moves swiftly on at the thought but I think it's good to know that you can still have a sexlife.

Oh how this thread has cheered my afternoon

I'm with showofhands on this one though. My parents have done it 3 times only, ever. Parents don't do that sort of thing!!!

LOL at those with "open" parents and inlaws. Don't know how I'd react to that at all.

My mumd and dad still have sex - just not with each other

Ok, on this topic I have the emotional maturity of a teenager. It's gross, it's sick and wrong, wrong, wrong. If you'd met my parents you would understand that they couldn't possibly still have s*x (please let that be true) honestly, it nauseates me even thinking about it

Why on earth did I '*' sex?!!!!! Freudian slip?!

I have an issue with my 14 year old DS having an issue with us having sex. I know he must sometimes hear us (not that we're noisy - chance would be a fine thing! - but the bed is!) and I have to forcibly block the fact out of my mind whilst in the act! He has never mentioned having heard us (I think he knows that would be overstepping the mark.. I God.. I'd become frigid I reckon.. [shock).. but doesn't sometimes make snidey references to our sex life.. ). We are not repressed about talking about sex per se with him.. bur I really really don't want to get into a discussion about us doing it!

I don't know how people are supposed to have sex life around their teenagers... I have posted on here before about it.

As for my parents having sex.. well I really ^really can't imagine how I came into being because they don't, and have never, really liked each other at all! (Finally got divorced when I was 21!)

(Sorry meant does sometimes make snidey comments...)

yes the silver lining of divorced parents is that they really don't 'do it' any more

although tbh i think my parents had quite a hot sex life and it didn't bother me too much, perhaps partly because i thought and still think they were both really goodlooking - how shallow of me

mum now has a married lover and I know they have been at it hammer and tongs for eleven years. his poor wife.

I 'spect it's linked to our feelings of revulsion re incest etc. Probably best if we don't think of our parents as sexual beings as then we won't be tempted. Probably.

Funnily enough, the thought of my parents having sex doesn't repulse me (although I'd rather not dwell on the image).

My PIL on the other hand.... yeuch. Blah. Spleugh.

Im sure i've mentioned this story before....but...

To set the scene, my mother is very hard of hearing, and lip reads mostly.

A few years back my older brother (he would have been 24 or 25) heard my mum moaning one night. He was worried so he went into our parents bedroom and asked if she was okay.

My dad snapped back "Yes, she's fine". My brother, said "Whats the matter?" Dad replies "She's got a headache". Brother says "Does she need some tablets - shall I get some?" "NO she's fine". "Oh okay then". Wanders off back to bed.

Next morning, brother goes up to my mum in the kitchen and says "Morning Mum, how's your head now?". Mum looks puzzled and says "Fine. Why?" "you had a headache last night" (Dad hurries into the room looking startled and panicked and not knowing whether to nudge my mum or tell brother to shut up). Mum says "No I didnt, why did you think I had a headache". At this point my brother sees my Dad's expression, and finally clicks, goes bright red, and walks off, whilst my mum is stood in absolute hysterics..........

was feeling down tonight and this thread has made me laugh so much ..........thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh god that caravan story has reminded me.

on hol with friend aged 15 and her grandparents. Woken up with caravan rocking us with jumpers stuffed in mouths to stop laughing out loud until....
"are you ready" said the grandad
"no not quite" said the grandma

rocking stopped and slurping started. My friend turned away in horror and we never mentioned it again.

The grandma had a right spring in her step the next morning though.