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Have upset DH without even trying! Infact I thought I was being the PERFECT Mummy!!!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 21:45

I have a real phobia of sickness and struggle quite alot, but over the last few months what with the combination of CBT and medication and really started to see the light. To cut a long story short, DH also looks after our 3 DDs (well for the last 6 yrs) when they have been ill. Today DD2 gradually through the day faded with that horrible flu bug thing, instead of me panicking I just carried on made her a little bed on sofa(just like DH would of done, given her regular hugs, stroked her forehead and made sure she drank regulary) all in all I coped well. DH came home from work and with in seconds he was commenting about our DD saying its all sycological and theres nothing wrong with its just her being a wuss!. I have told DH she probably wont be going to ballet tomorrow so DH said are you still taking into town while other DD goes to ballet- I reply rather shortly "no" and he has now got a strop on and is moaning that he cant go and do the weekly shop when he wants to. This behaviour is so unlike my DH that I can only think that he is jealous that I didnt need him to help look after DD and so in his eyes shes noy really ill, but I know different what with the temp and the way she has flopped all day!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:42

HA HA HA HA. No Im not laughing at was has just happened but why! DD has just thrown up so she is really poorly now(as DH slinks round the doorway). She asked for a drink I always panic over this but DH said thats a good idea so I got one for her, well he was being sarcastic(he didnt sound it- serves him right!) He comes in and demands her to stop sipping. Im to me this is not a sickness bug but that flu thing that is going around and she needs fluids especially at the mo she is very hot, I gently take cup away and tell her to try and go back to sleep, she looks so poorly its breaking my heart- I dont normaly see this side of things as I normally stay completely away!

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1sue1 · 09/02/2007 22:43

Yep it's either that or what my cynical self would think - he's pissed off that he might have to babysit on a saturday...rather than whatever he had planned for himself. Although, shopping? On his own? He can't be all bad then!

1sue1 · 09/02/2007 22:45

I always let them drink as much as they want, even if they bring it right back up. there's nothing worse than retching on an empty tummy. She'll be sick if she's been drinking or not.

Well done, sounds like you've conquered your phobia...and he doesn't like it...

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:47

You ob dont know my DH- He thinks if I go and do the food shop I will either forget something or spend too much money- sometimes true but not always. IMO its more of a taking control kind of thing- he likes to be incharge.

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 22:49

Awww, bubble So sorry DD is so poorly & sorry DH is not being sympathetic.
You ARE being a good mum & you are doing really well.x

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:50

Bloody men damned if your right and damned if your wrong!!!!!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:51

By the way PC dH says thats absolutely fine about you going to London with me if its alright with you, I talked about pound signs and he could understand it then

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 22:52

Okey dokey - it's a date then!!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:57

I cant believe how calm I am over this infact I keep thinking is this how other people react when there DC are ill. I even gave her a kiss on her lips knowing that this flu bug thing can make them sick and I never wiped my lips after!!!! Im so proud of myself!!!!

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 22:58

How is DD now?

pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 22:59

Well done, PC!!! You're doing SO well!!

pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 22:59

PC?? PB I mean!! PC is ME!!!!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 22:59

Still coughing but just lying quietly in bed, feeling very sorry for herself

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:00

Ha Ha I didnt notice LOLS

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 23:00

Oh bless her. Hope she's feeling better soon.

colditz · 09/02/2007 23:02

Do you know, a lot of people I know who have emetaphobia in any form have controlling partners.

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:03

Changing the subject PC whilst still lookink for the right duvet cover for DDs bedroom I found a lovely Mr Men duvet covet and thought of your young man!

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 23:05

Did you PC?? Where was that?

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:05

Colditz is that really true , because honestly he doesnt think he is but to me he really and truly is over most things. OMG never thought of that before!

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 23:07

You hadn't thought of DH as being controlling before, bubble?

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:07

PC or should you change your name to PB!!!! you've done it again LOLs Im all embarrassed now as I cant remember the web site so I will have a look I do have a vague idea thou!

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 23:08

Oh yes, so I have, how bonkers am I??!!

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:09

Well sort of but TBH I didnt want to admit to it as I really dont know how to deal with it![

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pinkbubble · 09/02/2007 23:10

Had one or two glasses of wine have we?

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pinkchampagne · 09/02/2007 23:10

On bacardi tonight!!!

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