Have upset DH without even trying! Infact I thought I was being the PERFECT Mummy!!!

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I have a real phobia of sickness and struggle quite alot, but over the last few months what with the combination of CBT and medication and really started to see the light. To cut a long story short, DH also looks after our 3 DDs (well for the last 6 yrs) when they have been ill. Today DD2 gradually through the day faded with that horrible flu bug thing, instead of me panicking I just carried on made her a little bed on sofa(just like DH would of done, given her regular hugs, stroked her forehead and made sure she drank regulary) all in all I coped well. DH came home from work and with in seconds he was commenting about our DD saying its all sycological and theres nothing wrong with its just her being a wuss!. I have told DH she probably wont be going to ballet tomorrow so DH said are you still taking into town while other DD goes to ballet- I reply rather shortly "no" and he has now got a strop on and is moaning that he cant go and do the weekly shop when he wants to. This behaviour is so unlike my DH that I can only think that he is jealous that I didnt need him to help look after DD and so in his eyes shes noy really ill, but I know different what with the temp and the way she has flopped all day!

It is true. I know 2 women with emet, and both are not allowed to do the food shopping on their own. One has to leave her bank card in her husband's 'bank card box', which is kept locked. Shge has taken to lying about the price of things, and keeping change. But she won't have it out wqith him. I can't help thinking that if they weren't so passive, their husbands wouldn't feel the need to take over.

Sounds interesting I think i will look into this! At first I thought that DH liked to do the shopping but for the last yr not so sure, I thought that he only controlled me over the sickness thing but now when I think about other things he does get very sulky if I object going from what we are having for dinner, to what is on the TV to our bedroom activities. And when I say sulk he can sulk for england and win us a gold medal- it goes on for days!

I would say he is kind of controlling, bubble

Dont really know what to say really- apart from three quartres of me hates him and the other quartre absolutely adores him

PC althou it hurts I do prefer the truth so thanks!

Oh bubble, didn't mean to upset you.
Can empathise with what you said in your previous post 100% though.

To be truthful PC, I deep down know, its just that nobody has ever been honest with me over it infact I normally only get opinions from his side of the family and they are always biased!

Your DH is a lovely bloke, but from what you have described of his control over what you spend & the whole bedroom bit, then yes, I would say he's quite controlling over you. Sorry if I have said the wrong thing.

Infact he even did it again tonight, we both know he is getting a healthy sized bonus and to be honest I asked if I could have some because I wanted to decorate 2 of DDs rooms, He mentioned it this evening saying "do you have any money!" I reply only money that has already been budgeted for" he replies"well as your off this week if you want to draw £200 out of my bank then do so but dont go mad and if you need anymore by the end of the month let me now!" " wow2 I thought. Me and DD1 spent ages looking for duvet cover and curtains, when I told him what we were doing he was astonished- why do we need more duvet covers was his reply- TO LOOK BLOODY NICE WAS MY REPLY!!!!!

Blimmin right! Just order them & tell DH about them when they arrive!!

I will tell him you told me so

Oh no, don't blame me!! I'm sure he already hates me enough for going shopping with you & not stopping you from spending!!

Ha ha LOLs, He knows me too well! so dont worry!

Touch wood DD is all quiet now and not coughing and hasnt been sick again! lets hope we get some sleep tonight!

Hope she is ok, bubble.
You have done really well you know?! Well done you!!

Yer! feeling very pleased with myself in a funny kind of way ! just a bit nervous of going to bed, thats whn everything goes silent.

You will be just fine! You have come on in leaps & bounds recently!
Hope DD has a peaceful night & makes a quick recovery.

I hope so to, poor thing fancy waiting for half term to be ill! Im so cheesed off but I suppose I had better go to bed as it could be a very long night. Good night
Oh and by the way still not heard from my sister- the b**h

Night, bubble, hope you have a peaceful night.
I am sure your sis will be in touch soon.x

Ha Ha i think I just saw a pig fly past my window!

Well its now Sunday evening and dh has finally given in that she has been ill- well still ill! she slept all day yesterday and ate nothing. Luckily I didnt have to take her into town for other DDs Ballet. When she went to bed at 8pm, she slept quite peacefully until about 1am then every hour or so was sick because she was coughing so much. Today she doesnt seem to have temp but has just laid very quietly on sofa all day, finally at tea time she had a really small bowl of chicken soup and kept it down(i even made her a dippy egg for breakfast to which she took one look and threw up!)What does my DH have to see to make him believe/realise that there are times when we are ill. I honestly think that at first because I hadnt panicked and called him home he thought I was over reacting Bloody men