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AIBU - DP leaving DD home alone to go and buy a ready meal

75 replies

Loupdaloup · 21/10/2016 20:28

On my way back from a day trip whilst DP looks after our 2 year old DD. Spoke to DP and he was about to head to the supermarket to buy his ready meal. The supermarket is the the opposite side of the road, but at least a 2-3 min walk from the house, let alone the time spent in there. I'm very grateful for him taking a day off to look after our DD, but also concerned. Am I being ridiculously over fussy?

OP posts:
Woodenmouse · 21/10/2016 20:54

I would kill dh if he left our 3yo on his own for even 1 minute.

MoveItMoveItMoveIt · 21/10/2016 20:55

Er what?! No he can take her with him outrageous to leave a two year old home alone!

Why are you so grateful anyway for him looking after his own child? Does he afford you the same gratitude?

Woollymammoth63 · 21/10/2016 20:56

It's not a joke.. It's really not.

Ditsy4 · 21/10/2016 21:05

Social services would be very interested and involved if they knew the child had been left alone.

BlueFolly · 21/10/2016 21:07

She's asleep and he'll be gone for 2 minutes. I'd do it. She won't come to harm. Even if he's knocked down by a bus, you'll be home soon.

category12 · 21/10/2016 21:09

He can also wait the 10 minutes for the OP to get home and then go to get his food. He's scarcely going to starve. What's the all-fired necessity to leave a toddler at home alone, even if asleep - to get a fucking ready meal he can get in a few minutes?

Trifleorbust · 21/10/2016 21:10

That is really shocking. Putting the bins out is a 2 minute job which is unavoidable. A supermarket trip is potentially a 15 minute trip - 2-3 mins to get there, 2-3 mins to get back, 2-3 mins to walk round and get your ready meal, up to 5 mins to queue up and pay.

Anything could happen.

OhTheRoses · 21/10/2016 21:10

I don't actually see the big issue, providing there's a stair gate and nothing dangerous lying around. Most baby monitors will work for two yo three minutes of the house.

And she was fast asleep.

OhTheRoses · 21/10/2016 21:12

Social services wouldn't give two hoots! Baby P, Victoria Climbie, etc, etc.

Muddlingalongalone · 21/10/2016 21:25

Good lord no - but then my nearly 2 year old is an accident waiting to happen when I'm in the same room & wakes up a lot. I do occasionally let my 5 year old stay in the house while I drive the car round to our allocated parking 2 mins away, but a) she's very responsible & b) she's under strict instructions not to move off the sofa & c) she's 5.
He must know it's wrong otherwise he wouldn't have checked with you, just gone

fabulous01 · 21/10/2016 21:30

Let's put this into context. Some women have posted something similar.
But I would be on way to police now as I would ruddy kill him if he was my other half!

category12 · 21/10/2016 22:12

We could all fall down dead unexpectedly any second - but there's no reason why a grown man can't wait 10 minutes for his partner to get home before he goes out to get a ready meal. I mean, if she doesn't get home because she's fallen down dead unexpectedly, then when he's a little more than peckish and might possibly starve to actual death himself, he could always wake the toddler and carry them round sainsburys. Or make himself some toast until the resurrection occurs.

PickAChew · 21/10/2016 22:17

Why couldn't the muppet have gone out to buy it earlier before she went to sleep. There is no good reason to leave a 2 year old alone for "2 minutes" (I can spend longer than that at the checkout) for something which is most definitely not an out and out emergency.

AnyFucker · 21/10/2016 22:22

Social services would give two hoots because of Baby Peter and Victoria Climbie

QueenLizIII · 21/10/2016 22:24

My mum used to leave me in bed in the.morning at 3 years old when I was wide awake while she walked my sister to school and back. I was never an early riser.

She told me not to get up and I didnt.

She was lucky I did as I was told.

Cant he just order a take away.

OhTheRoses · 21/10/2016 22:26

So, no nobody on this thread has left a two year old asleep for ten minutes to put put the washing, pick tomatoes, have a shower then?

QueenLizIII · 21/10/2016 22:27

People have left two year olds alone sleeping while at a restaurant on holiday.

Mistletoekids · 21/10/2016 22:29

Yes but if you are in garden putting washing etc you are in earshot and you can run back inside in a matter of seconds

Entirely entirely different from going to the supermarket up the road

He sounds like a prick

category12 · 21/10/2016 22:29

Argh, we're not even talking about someone with no food in the house until the next day - we're talking about a grown man at home, with his partner returning in the next hour. He could fucking wait.

AyeAmarok · 21/10/2016 22:30

Are you serious?

KoalaDownUnder · 21/10/2016 22:30

He's a complete dick.

Is 'What would Social Services say?' really the bar you want to set got the care of your toddler?

Fucking appalling.

KoalaDownUnder · 21/10/2016 22:31

*set for

category12 · 21/10/2016 22:33

It's not about going to have a shower, it's about leaving the fricking house empty with a sleeping toddler, when if he waited a short time til his partner got home, he could parade around the shops to his heart's content. He's not a single parent. He's not gonna starve.

Eevee77 · 21/10/2016 22:46

You really have to ask??

OhTheRoses · 21/10/2016 22:51

I'm not in earshot in the garden.