Active discussions

Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Date with no kiss..what do you reckon?

54 replies

Louisajohnson224 · 10/10/2016 23:05

I had a date last night and we had such a laugh.
We went for drinks and got on well,plenty of laughs,no awkward moments but no kiss.
He walked me to the train stop and we said bye and that was that.
He text me ten minutes later saying that he really wanted to see me again.
He text me again tonight and we are going for food on Thursday night.
Was the no kiss last night a bad sign tho?
What date are you meant to kiss? Have sex?
I haven't dated for so long ..

OP posts:
TroysMammy · 11/10/2016 18:12

If you shook hands at the end of the date then you won't be getting another. However, considering he texted you just after parting company and you are going out again on Thursday sounds positive.

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 18:47

I'm going to get my legs out Thursday ..I've been told I have nice legs ..so try and use them to get a kiss Wink

OP posts:
KatieScarlett · 11/10/2016 18:49

If I hadn't grabbed DH and forced some lip action I guarantee it would have not happened on our first date. However, not one day has gone by since without him planting multiple kisses. Usually if he leaves a room I'm in Blush Last one was 5 mins ago.
Grab him and get kissin'

ayeokthen · 11/10/2016 18:49

DP and I would still be waiting for our first kiss if he'd been left to it, he was so shy! I ended up jumping on him after getting fed up waiting Grin

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 19:34

See this guy doesn't seem shy ..he is confident and jokey etc ..maybe he didn't fancy me Confused

OP posts:
twolinesplease · 11/10/2016 20:15

OP have you heard anything from him?
I sent a flirty text earlier and I think it went down like a lead ballon, embarrassed him Blush!
I give up..

LIttleTripToHeaven · 11/10/2016 20:39

He wouldn't have asked to see you again if the lack of a kiss was because he didn't fancy you.

You've already said that it was busy where you were etc. He probably felt exactly the same as you.

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 21:17

Yeah he's been texting me all day..
We are texting about Thursday now..
I think I'm just worrying too much as I've had lots of creeps and liars etc
I need to just go with the flow I think

OP posts:
Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 21:18

What did you say twolinesplease?

OP posts:
twolinesplease · 11/10/2016 21:35

I complimented him on some of his work that he'd showed me and mentioned that he was both clever and handsome
(I know, I know... cheesy)
He replied that he was shocked by my reply.

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 21:52

Bloody hell if that shocked him I would hate to see the reaction of a full on "flirty message "

OP posts:
twolinesplease · 11/10/2016 22:00

I know right...? I think I maybe flogging a dead horse Hmm

Astarael · 11/10/2016 22:17

I had a match.com date - first date got on like a house on fire but no kiss so I was thinking the same as you OP.

Second date - I stayed at his Blush

Now been seeing each other for three months and it's going great! He said he wanted to make sure I was into him too before he leaned in Smile.

Texting you straight away is a great sign!

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 11/10/2016 22:40

I find dating so nerve wracking ..
After a few drinks I'm good ..I just need to get drunk before every date and il be fine ha ha

OP posts:
1DAD2KIDS · 11/10/2016 22:50

There isn't any rules. The dynamic is different with different people. Some are slow burners (these are sometimes the best). I would say if he got back to you about another date he is well game. So if you like him too see him again and go with the flow.

Also once you are a bit more confident all is going well there is no reason why you cant take the initiative. Maybe ease in with some body contact and take it from there. But the fact he wants a second date I would say is a very good sign

Myusernameismyusername · 12/10/2016 08:51

I'm going on date 4 tonight and 5 on Friday. Still hasn't been a snogging haha. Let's see later shall we!
I've tried going in for a hug but it always comes out a bit matey

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 12/10/2016 09:21

Ha ha you will have to report back if there was any tounge action Grin

OP posts:
Myusernameismyusername · 12/10/2016 09:29

Tonight I don't think so as it is a very quick cinema trip

Myusernameismyusername · 12/10/2016 09:34

Also I am quite clearly coming down with a disgusting cold

Original poster
Louisajohnson224 · 12/10/2016 10:26

Awww typical ...
I've just googled
"How to be sexy"
Confused

OP posts:
Myusernameismyusername · 13/10/2016 07:26

No kiss!

twolinesplease · 13/10/2016 21:57

My username what do you mean there was still no kiss, what happened ?
Also does anyone know how you tell you have been placed in the "friend zone"?

Myusernameismyusername · 13/10/2016 23:04

We have been on 4 dates and no kissing or even touching Blush
But we are going on date 5 tomorrow and he's been very keen with 'I'm so looking forward to it' and I love spending time with you

I realised last night he does not give me butterflies. But I really like being with him. I feel really comfortable. It's bizarre because that's why I am not sure if we have friend zoned

twolinesplease · 15/10/2016 16:09

Myusername how did date no 5 go? Tell me you went in for the killer kiss?

TiggyD · 15/10/2016 16:19

Should we report the OP for not keeping us updated even though we're right nosey buggers?

Swipe left for the next trending thread