Follow my Heart or my Head

[Jonsnow1]

I'm a married man of 9yrs been together 15 years, with 2 childern under 10, I have been having an emotional affair for 6 months with a co worker, which in the past 2 months has turned sexual, this is totally against my moral code and I'm so in love with the ow but still love my wife. Advice please

oh come off it, I regularly do things that are 'against my moral code'. I wish I didn't, but I do. Flawed human being and all that.

Though my previous posts stand on this subject.

If the OP truly loves and respects his wife, he should realise it's not his decision to make.

He should tell his wife an empower her to make that decision based on what she wants.

He selfishly had an affair and so it wouldn't surprise me if he selfishly simply continues to think about what's best for him and doesn't respect her enough to be able to make her own decisions on what's best for her in case he doesn't agree with them.

springy I like your posts. oh come off it, I regularly do things that are 'against my moral code'. I wish I didn't, but I do. well said.
AyeAmarok I am sorry to disappoint you and a few women around but from what I have seen, I think that in many adulterous affairs the OWs are very active in creating opportunities and 'trapping'. Unfortunately more in love a man seems to be with his partner more attractive he is to many single women. Of course a man who is strongly opposed to affairs and adultery would be strong enough to resist the ephemeral attraction of any OW. Of course a few of them use the stability of their partnership to indulge in affairs- even with, unless it is especially with- women he would have never ever have thought about dating were they single. No I do not back up cheating by men. And yes there are a few that are disgusting and shamelessly chasing skirts. But not all are like this.