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How many people are married to/still with their "first"

77 replies

Flamesparrow · 06/02/2007 17:13

After reading the did you use a condom thread and seeing a few wedding nights etc it got me wondering....

How many people are still together with the first person they slept with (and I do mean the first one by choice for all those with such stories)?

OP posts:
Gingerbear · 06/02/2007 20:38

'A lot of fun' = 'slapper'??

Gingerbear · 06/02/2007 20:38
Grin
FrayedKnot · 06/02/2007 20:41

DH is my 13th...but we're not superstitious!

I've never found myself judging DH or any of the others in terms of performance.

Each experience was different but actually the nuts & bolts of sex are pretty much the same whoever it is, IMO.

It's the emotional bits that make things unique.

itsmeNDP · 06/02/2007 20:42

Ginge, yes DH is the best lover I have had and I did carry out out ermmmmmm, thorough research

Gingerbear · 06/02/2007 21:17

NDP

Frayedknot, I agree entirely - the emotional bit is very important when it comes to good sex. One nighters in odd places are things to smile about, but lasting relationships they do not necessarily make.

eidsvold · 06/02/2007 21:19

not me - we did get married but he decided he preferred my married best friend!

JanH · 06/02/2007 21:23

I'm still with my first DH but there was a lot of water under the bridge before him

Greensleeves · 06/02/2007 21:30

Hell, no

Greensleeves · 06/02/2007 21:30

But dh married his first

vizbizz · 07/02/2007 00:05

DH is my first and only, though I did have other boyfriends before we met. We didn't wait till wedding night, though he was willing to wait if I wanted. I wasn't his first, but I was in a different way.....I was his only "first" IYKWIM

beckybrastraps · 07/02/2007 00:13

The trouble is, I met dh pretty early on. We didn't get married for another 9 years, lived at opposite ends of the country for 4 of them. But in all those years I never met anyone I wanted more.

So there I am, still with my first.

sandcastles · 07/02/2007 01:43

I married my first. Been together 17 years in March, married 13 in May.

cheekychick · 07/02/2007 01:51

I know heaps of people that have and still are married to their first. Virgins before they got married etc envy them wish I got it right first time round.

Sadly not one of them....but still with my first husband if that counts lol

Anniegetyourgun · 07/02/2007 13:57

I'm just in the process of ditching my first and only after 24 years together. He persists in thinking, or in claiming to think, that I've been planning this for years with some bloke. All I can say is, bloke, where art thou? Are you rich, handsome, pleasant? Why am I still sharing a house with this arse if I have options?

estar · 07/02/2007 16:43

Yes!!

Like other people have said, have no desire to do it with anyone else - who would know what I like and who else can you have a good giggle with when something goes horribly wrong? Will have been married seven years this summer. We have a great time and our love life has definately evolved and improved over time - having children actually helped, iykwim

MeImAllSmiles · 07/02/2007 16:52

Married my first last year after being apart for over 20 years!

OrmIrian · 08/02/2007 09:51

Nearly. Not quite my first but my first real serious bf. And we had a few years off when I was at uni. But we've known each other for about 25 years, been living together for 20 and married for 14.

OrmIrian · 08/02/2007 09:53

Also meant to say that I do sometime wonder about what it would have been like if we'd played the field more and we both used to say that we wish we'd met 10 years later but that's just how it happened.

expatinscotland · 08/02/2007 09:59

Um, no.

Definitely not.

Quootiepie · 08/02/2007 09:59

Married my (proper ) first, wanted to wait until wedding night but figured I was already "used goods", so didn't. I can't imagine having sex with anyone else, it repulses me! Although we have our ups and downs, I really really couldn't imagine being with anyone else in any way

SmileysPeople · 08/02/2007 10:06

Hi Quootie!!
Not seen you around much. Hope all is Ok with you.

And in answer to the OP, NO!!!!
Do I look like Julie Andrews?? Well maybe a do a bit.

It's a nice idea, but unless you meet Mr.Right pretty young, unlikely.

mylittlestar · 08/02/2007 10:26

I am. Started going out together when we were in school, married 4 years ago, ds is 17 months - and we've been together 14 years this year!

(Although we are having a bad patch at the moment but as we're still married and there's nobody else involved I think it still counts! )

3xamum · 08/02/2007 10:29

No - thank goodness. Number 2 is much better

kseaj · 08/02/2007 10:37

me, we met at school been married 4 years this year but been together for 10.

Issymum · 08/02/2007 10:37

I am. Met when we were 17 and married 11 years later, so no, it wasn't first time on wedding night! It was the first time for both of us when we did. We broke up for a term and I had a short affair with one Canadian then a one night thing with his best friend. The sex in what I like to think of as my 'Commonwealth Era' was OK, but it was so much better with DH. However, DH has had sex only with me. I don't think he wonders what it would be like with someone else, although he occasionally strains to remember what it would be like with me!!