Tell me about your happy relationship

[NoCapes]

What is it about your partner and relationship do you love?
I don't mean the buzz words - 'honesty, respect' etc etc
I mean what do they mean for you? How do you know you're loved, how is it shown?
What is it about your relationship that makes you know that you want to be there?

Really break it down to me

[thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter]

We've been through a lot (family illness, bereavement, etc) and we're stronger for it, as said before we're a team, I know he has my back and I his. Although we don't share hobbies or likes really (he's more sci-fi, I'm crafts), we have the same values. We both have the same sense of humour and do that really sickening thing of having 'in jokes'. I admire how he is with others as well, he doesn't treat people like shit, isn't underhand or a shit stirrer and doesn't get starry-eyed by celebs or rich people etc. Plus we still fancy each other loads. I often joke with him that he's my Ned Stark but with a head

[ProcrastinatingSquid2]

He's utterly generous, thoughtful and always puts me before himself.
If I'm upset -even about something silly -he'll think up something nice to cheer me up, like taking me out for a meal.
He's never belittled me and always makes me feel good about myself.
If I'm in the wrong on something he never brings it up to score points later (even though I do with him sometimes...) and I never feel like he's keeping score on who contributes the most to our relationship.
He's never impatient with me. He's just lovely.

[thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter]

I'm so sorry MrsDerek I hope you have someone in RL you can lean on or start a new thread here

inaclearing I hope it all comes back clear, I had something similar and it came back negative - despite it being golf ball sized! (I know, all the doctors were shocked I'd hadn't noticed it til it was that big)

[Jaimx86]

Brings me a cup of tea every morning and packs my lunch, leaving my work bag by the front door ready to go.

Does the house jobs he knows I hate, without complaining.

Sleeps in the spare room if I need a good night's sleep.

[dalmatianmad]

My dp is my best friend, I can rely on him 100% and he has my back all the time.
He puts up with my Wierd ways and rolls his eyes when I bring another stray animal home ( he secretly loves living in a zoo).
He can cook, clean, wash and iron. Handy when I've just done a busy 12 hour shift.

I get "payday" presents (a little gift when he gets paid every month) these vary from a small bunch of flowers/beautiful jewellery/clothes/chocolates and wine....

He makes me laugh when I'm down and cuddles me before I even realise I need a cuddle, if that makes sense.

He's excellent with my dc, we've been together 5 years and I really wish we had met before. I was with an abusive arse hole before (dc's dad) so feel very lucky to have met this man!

[mummyto2monkeys]

He lifts me from bed to wheelchair, showers me, lovingly washes my hair, dresses me, cooks for me does everything for me. And despite the fact that my body has dramatically changed he still looks me in the eyes with the same passion and depth of love as when we were on honeymoon. I love that we can still make each other laugh and that despite what life throws at us we are still best friends and lovers. I love that he is an amazing Father and that he is always telling our children and me that he loves us. My husband is incredibly strong and has given up his entire family to be with me, with us. I don't in any way keep him from them yet he chooses not to let them in, out of anger at how they treated me, hurt at how they treated him and a very strong determination not to let our children be hurt by them.

Every morning he wakes me with a kiss, and every night we hold hands, as we can no longer hold each other thanks to my needing a hospital bed, so he sleeps in a single by my side.

He is incredibly affectionate and loving and seeing our children giggle if they catch Daddy kissing Mummy melts my heart. I have been a size 8, a 10, 12, 14, 16, 18 then down to 10 then back up to 18, then 20 then down to a 16. Never once has he complained about my weight. Its like he sees inside my body to my soul, he says 'I love you, you are still you no matter your size, to me you are always beautiful'

We are so happy, my husband is my full time carer and despite being in each others company every day, we are still best friends. He is the one and only person who has ever known the true me. The moment we met we felt completely at ease, it was like something just clicked. I have never had to put airs and graces on, or try to be somebody I'm not, he was the same with me. Even with my family I felt I had to be more outgoing but my husband has seen all of me from the very start and loved me anyway.

[Mamalicious16]

Mummy.

Wow. Just wow. Sounds Amazing.

[Tarttlet]

Awww Mummy that made me cry - your husband sounds so lovely!

[Sparklesilverglitter]

Aww mummy bloody lovely to read

[joanne90]

Whenever I'm really down (I suffer from depression) he drives 30 minutes to get here and always cheers me up.

Always makes me laugh.

Takes me to places I love and always pays, last week we went to an owl sanctuary and bought me a snowy owl teddy 😃.

Always reads my daughter a bed time story, has a laugh and joke with her 😃

Very generous in the bedroom 😉

[bert3400]

Laughter its all about the laughter . We laugh pretty much constanlty ...he's the funiest person i know but he also makes me a nicer , kinder person . He loves me even when I'm peed off , he loves me even more when I'm angry ( I know weird , but he does). After 18 years I look at him and yearn to be with him . We are absolutely best friends which is good cause we work together too . I love him with every bone in my body and he is fucking amazing in bed

[CharminglyGawky]

He isn't perfect and doesn't mind that I'm not either!

He cuddles me in his sleep.

We work together and from home and don't fight about it!

He is genuinely my best friend and we can spend hours talking about absolute nonsense.

[salsamad]

After 23 yrs my DH knows me better than I know myself. We are very loving and affectionate - everyday we say "I Love You".
We are best friends and enjoy each other's company. Our sex life is fab and he makes me feel attractive and desirable even when I'm not really feeling it myself.
He's complimentary and is happy to go clothes shopping occasionally and doesn't complain if I take ages choosing.
We support each other when times are difficult. We trust each other and talk about issues that are bothering us.
Though we disagree and argue about some things, on the really important issues we are always on the same page.
He puts up with my bossiness and mood swings, and he makes me laugh lots.
He gave me the best present I ever had in my DS and he's a brilliant Dad.
He is generous with his time and his love, he puts me first and does lots of little things to make me happy - buying me Maoam sweets or chocs.
He suggested we go to see Bridget Jones Baby this weekend at the cinema instead of him going to football.
Tonight in the shower he heard me crying loudly after watching Moira discover her daughter Holly had died in Emmerdale, he jumped out of the shower and came in dripping wet to give me a hug.
The loving, caring and sharing make any annoying habits less important and the arguments we have seem easily solvable.
He is the only man I have truly being in love with, I'm so pleased to see him after he's been at work all day and he can still make my tummy turn over.
I really cannot imagine life without him.

[KondoLisaNice]

He sorts out all the tedious bollocks admin chores, he makes me laugh and laughs at my crap jokes, he tells me he fancies me and I hear him saying nice things about me to other people. When I ask him if I've put on weigh he always says no.

[oliversax]

I saw your thread nocapes and really hope you're doing better. My DH does lots of things that make me feel like we're in a partnership but the big deals are Being calm in amongst my preggo and new baby hormones, apologising when he knows he started the irrational row and often when he didn't. When I apologise accepting my actions were just right then & not me through & through. It's hard to capture in a few sentences but I think It's about feeling respected and respecting right back.
I want to wish you loads of luck.

[littlemissM92]

This thread is the best I've read!
He's my best friend, he's fab, he makes me howl with laughter and always puts me first, he puts me on a pedestal and is so bloody drop dead gorgeous I often find myself just staring. The way he snuggles into me when he's fast asleep and I often wake in the night and we will be holding hands and those fingers just felt like they were made to hold mine. He always lets me choose what to watch on telly even though he hates my reality trash he lets me choose where i want to eat for date nights :) my 2 faves as he knows I'm a chocoholic when he brings me a little chocolate bar for my lunch for work and as he leaves for work at 5am he always kisses me on the forehead and tucks the covers right up to my chin , i just know he's the one I'm going to grow old and grey with and I know he's going to continue to give me it all.. And I will continue to give it all back X

[369thegoosedrankwine]

When I am doing something it's always better if he's there. He makes me laugh a lot, brings me flowers, will make lovely breakfasts.

I think we need to be totally honest and I will hold my hands up and say that we do have some real rows and we can both be unkind, but we know we love each other so that's ok.

[iremembericod]

He holds my hand and means it.
He is proud of me and interested in my progress and genuinely will do anything he can to keep my happiness.
He respects my space.
He asks if I am ok and wants to really hear the answer.
He tells me he loves me every night.
He tells me everything about him, his fears, his stupid thoughts, whatever - he doesn't hide himself
Neither of us want to die and want it to last forever.

[WombOfOnesOwn]

He cares for our baby and our home while I work. When we argue, we always end the argument feeling BETTER, not worse, because we honestly are both trying to figure out how to make each other feel good, not score points (we've had to work to achieve this but it's incredible). He drives me to work, picks me up with a smile on his face and occasionally flowers on the passenger seat, he knows what I like in bed and is generous in the bedroom...and his constant, devoted efforts for me made it so I could spend the last 6 weeks of a difficult pregnancy laying/sitting down as much as I wanted to. He supports me through my anxiety, helping me with calming words, and takes care of everything when I'm spending all my time either at work or applying to new jobs at a rate of 20+ jobs per week. He's not always the most able cook, but he's very willing, and makes a mean slow cooker pot roast that smells tremendously good after a long day in the office.

I'm getting broody again 7 months after our first baby, even though we wanted to take 4-5 years between kids, because of his incredible knack at being a dad. I know when some posters say "oh, but he's such a good dad," it's a desperate reach, but my god, is he EVER a good dad. We're planning to homeschool. I couldn't be happier!

[WombOfOnesOwn]

Oh, and lest I forget he's incredibly brilliant and we discuss politics, the news, science, and more all day long, even when I'm at work we're IMing together about what we have seen online and such. He's become an ardent radical feminist ally since we met, and can actually speak cogently about a wide range of feminist theories and thinkers. When I talk to him about why such-and-such is a sexist depiction or whatever, I don't get (like I did with some exes) an eyeroll and a sneer. I get a great, honest conversation, occasionally a lively debate. Our politics are so similar it's uncanny (part of why we got together in the first place), and we sometimes have similarly skeptical takes on things happening in the world often, these takes are just ours, no one else around us necessarily agrees.

[oliversax]

369 that's a big part of it. I can do anything alone but it's always better when he's there.

[mummyto2monkeys]

Thank you ladies, I have an amazing husband, I tell him so but he never believes how awesome he is. I might let him read my post, I wish he could see himself how I see him.

[maggiethemagpie]

We just don't place any demands on each other... it's all voluntary.

I would never want him to do something for me out of obligation rather than choice and he's the same.

It's not perfect, no relationship is, but there is an underlying respect and appreciation for the other

Our wedding reading was this, from Kahlil Gibran's the prophet. It's about being your own person in a relationship, so you can give to the other


Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

[NoCapes]

Thank you oliver

Mummy your DH does sound absolutely amazing!

I love this thread