DP's ex sending photos of past anniversary cards

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Dp and his ex split up 18 months ago or so.

She seems to contact him every couple of months.

He has told her not to get in contact and she resorted to contacting his parents last month.

As was told not to contact again and hadn't heard anything until today when she contacted him via message with photos of the 2 past anniversary cards he had sent her prior to the split despite the message to him saying she knows they are best apart.

We are buying a house and starting a family together and I thoughts the ex was in the past, but this is getting too much.
I don't know her, I don't want to say anything but what can I do? What should he do if anything?
Do we ignore?

I never thought I could be made to feel insecure but it's hard not to when it seems someone is trying to do so in such a deliberate manner

Why hasn't your boyfriend and his parents blocked this woman's number? Should have been done months ago.

Does your DP really feel annoyed by it though? Or do you think he finds it flattering deep down?

I don't think anyone in your position would be thrilled about it, but the key is how your partner feels and reacts. Some guys are very laid back and they'd just ignore it.

She doesn't sound narcissistic. She's not done anything cruel or nasty here. Unless I missed it.

She's just still hung up on him.

I think it's very cruel

She gets told by him not to message her or his family again, she replies weeks later with photos of their last anniversary cards.

This is not something does to a guy who has a girlfriend and in my opinion if they do that think they are something pretty special that despite him telling her he doesn't want to hear from her that she still thinks he would

Seriously, your dp could block her if he wanted to. He has chosen not to. I think it's that making you insecure. perhaps he feels flattered or perhaps he likes the attention and drama. I would insist he blocks her.

They didn't block her previously as her messages didn't include photos and were less harassing. They are grown up people who have tried asking her nicly.

I'm guessing blocking may happen next.

The messages haven't bothered me in the past. Only now that they include photos

Pity her but don't feel bad, record any contact and ignore.
I had an ex that would get absolutely shit face every few months and try to contact me with crazy messages.
Ignore ignore ignore, at some point she will look back and be embarrassed.

So these anniversary cards were not wedding anniversary cards etc. When they met or something I'm guessing.
It's odd, I don't mean to be rude but is she really young?
Any property ties still etc?

Get the feeling your boyfriend will continue to find reasons not to block her e.g it will upset her, I don't want to be horrible etc etc AKA I enjoy the drama and attention, I could have blocked her 18 months ago but will always find an excuse not to.

Yes she is young
She's 25.

It's just confusing as the messages she was sending him at the beginning weren't nice and this is the first one where she's using sentiment and remeniscing.

She moved on to her next boyfriend within weeks of the split didnt want anything to do with my dp for a long time.
I'm guessing this boyfriend of hers is no longer in the picture and that might have spurred on a few messages

There are no ties what so ever. They hadn't bought property together, they didn't have pets, and when they lived together she moved out of the flat and took we belongings and that was it

Your DP and his family just need to totally disengage from her. No responses, no reading of her messages - just nothing.

If she keeps getting no response she will give up. I bet she's just broken up with someone and is feeling a bit low and 'what if' . . .

Has she said anything nasty in the messages? That's what I meant by being cruel.

I think it's the fear that he'll go back to her with the recent messages. The reminiscing the good times.

Heres the thing .... if I had an Ex doing that. I'd have blocked them ages ago. At least after I'd told them to stop. So these messages wouldn't have come through.

I don't know that it's stressing your DP up as much as it is you. And if you have to tell him to block her - does he reallywant to block her would be my thoughts.

Perhaps say to him "As she hasn't got the message from you telling her before, the best thing is to block her". See what he says to that.

OP - how was he when he told you about the message and pics?

Was it a tone of anger and that she's a bother? Or something else.

He was bothered and wasn't going to even read it was just going to delete and forget it.
I made him read it

I think it's a gender thing. Men don't get so bothered and find it easy to ignore. Not a bad strategy for someone like her TBH.