Suddenly I'm interested in sex - should I just enjoy it?!

[SecretPrivateThings]

Just tried to post in sex but not been a member long enough so have toned down my post.

First post in this topic. I've been with DH for 15 years and have never had sex with anyone else. For my whole adult life I have not been particularly interested in sex. Long periods where it actually hurt. If you had told me I would never have sex again that would be fine.

I have two youngish DC and feel a bit as if I am starting to wake up and come out of the fog of tiredness. In the interests of full disclosure I have also had a crush on a female friend during that time and have started to question that side of things but would never act on it since I am married.

Over the last few months I have put more effort into sex with DH and started to really enjoy it and want it more and more.

Has anyone ever experienced this? Do I just enjoy it for what it is? Think DH does not know what has hit him . Have head about the peri menopause sex surge and bloody hope it's not that as I am only mid - late thirties.

[PlantpotPookins]

"Kegals"......maybe after chidbirth they need exercising to get them back to a tighter state which makes it much more enjoyabe for you and him.

[SecretPrivateThings]

Thanks, I have to admit I am a bit rubbish at doing my pelvic floor exercises so it can't hurt to start them again. Is more the fact that I am just so wet that is the problem though. Sorry if TMI.

[kerstina]

I can relate to this too OP . I am 47 now and it was a couple of years ago that I started to enjoy sex more than I ever had before .
It was a combination of going through the peri menopause, giving up work so not so tired . Meeting a new friend who had a crush on me and made me feel as if I was attractive as I had been at 16 ! I have remained in a relationship with my partner for twenty three years and putting in effort for this side of the relationship is definitely worth it . Just worried I will go off it because of my hormones which will be a shame . Is that what happens ?

[SecretPrivateThings]

kerstina, I think it's more common than I realised . Hope it lasts for you. Did you talk to your partner about it when it first happened. Can't quite find the words to say to DH that I want it constantlya lot more now which is ridiculous I know.

[Yourarejokingme]

I'm 51 and have turned into a horn dog as DH says and I do get wet. He doesn't mind at all. We've done the manual hand job which was new to him, but he loved it.
I've found the words to ask for things sexually and we talk more too. I've found it very refreshing shall we say.
We have young adults so no young ones but I had went of the boil for about a year and my libido returned with a vengeance 4/5 months ago. I'm going through the menopause though. But what ever floats your boat go for it.

[SecretPrivateThings]

I guess I just need to be an adult and talk to him about it, even if I can't quite figure out what's going on myself!