Just tried to post in sex but not been a member long enough so have toned down my post.
First post in this topic. I've been with DH for 15 years and have never had sex with anyone else. For my whole adult life I have not been particularly interested in sex. Long periods where it actually hurt. If you had told me I would never have sex again that would be fine.
I have two youngish DC and feel a bit as if I am starting to wake up and come out of the fog of tiredness. In the interests of full disclosure I have also had a crush on a female friend during that time and have started to question that side of things but would never act on it since I am married.
Over the last few months I have put more effort into sex with DH and started to really enjoy it and want it more and more.
Has anyone ever experienced this? Do I just enjoy it for what it is? Think DH does not know what has hit him 
. Have head about the peri menopause sex surge and bloody hope it's not that as I am only mid - late thirties.
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Suddenly I'm interested in sex - should I just enjoy it?!
SecretPrivateThings · 23/09/2016 21:31
kerstina, I think it's more common than I realised . Hope it lasts for you. Did you talk to your partner about it when it first happened. Can't quite find the words to say to DH that I want it constantlya lot more now which is ridiculous I know.
It's not always about the inside finish. If he finds sensation has lessened (not uncommon if you're really really wet) then he could always finish manually. I love it when my partners shoot over me
Erm, he doesn't have to cum inside always, you know. There are ways to help him out that can be just as interesting for both of you .
Enjoy it! You don't know how long this is gonna last (if it lasts, it could stay with you forever now) but yeah, just enjoy it babe. I think your body wants to make up for all those years haha
Am regretting posting this now. He much prefers it that I am enjoying things. He's not a twat. It's the fact that if there is lots of lubrication 
he finds it hard to come. Bloody hell, will have to name change after this.
Em... Is he saying he preferred it when you were enjoying it less and so where more tense and therefore tighter? Because if so, that makes him a bit 
(sorry if I've got the wrong end of the stick)
I did a pretty good job of pretending to be relaxed I'm afraid . I think it's now the fact that the grip feels very different
Tell him to get a grip - you're enjoying it ffs he should be pleased!!! 
FFS I think I have now given DH a complex. Not sure how much I can post in here so let's just say he says it feels "different" and it's much more difficult to finish now (this was after I dragged it out of him; he wasn't criticising). Probably because before I was always tense and completely unrelaxed so would have felt very different. Have said we'll give it a good few days off then try again. Want to be a supportive partner, presume we'll both just get used to this? 
A lot of it is just hormones OP! They control so much of us.. 6 months ago the idea of sex made me feel yuck, now I'm pregnant and feel horny all the time. But it's happened before without pregnancy! Nothing changes in the relationship but I suddenly want it again. Enjoy!
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Then care even less about the whys and wherefores and shag for Britain get thee upstairs. Or on stairs
OK, OK I am being ridiculous . Just can't understand the sudden change? I really could not have cared less about it a few months ago.
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