Would you leave a 7 1/2mth old stay at his grandparents overnight...

[DetentionGrrrl]

when he has never slept through the night?

Step MIL is constantly asking to have DS overnight, and i'm not sure that i'm ready. Plus, he has never slept through- he came close last week, but has been back to waking twice a night again.

I know she has the best of intentions, but i think she's forgotten how much work it is just chasing him round, never mind the night time stuff.

I'm almost tempted just to shut her up!

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Let het have him, even if he doesn't sleep through the night then if she is anything like my MIL she will never admit it. My two could run around and wreak the house ( not that they would ) but my MIL would always say 'they've been angels '.

If you say your not ready for it then fair enough , but what a chance to re charge batteries !

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I think it is very personal. I have left my DC (DD 8 and DS 4) with my parents ever since they were very little. They love to go now and go every holiday, just for one night, usually separately as Mum sets up little treats and events just for them and spoils them rotten! They are happy, I love seeing them happy but I do miss them. It's weird. But they are totally secure and I find that reassuring if there were to be an emergency.

Yes, DS stayed at his GParents for the first time when he was 3 months. Give yourself a break, and I think it does do them good to be forcibally reminded of how much hard work it is.

HELL YES!
A night off, bliss.
I did stay with my mum for the first 5 months after DS was born though.
My first night out did consist of a couple of phone calls to make sure he was alright.

Blimmin right I would!
DS1 first stayed overnight with my mum when he was 3 weeks old!

I think you need to do what you want and not what MIL wants tbh. Otherwise, this could be the think end of the wedge. Of course it's fine to make minor concessions to Grandparents here and there, but it's fairly major to go and stay the night with someone.

Start this relationship with your MIL as you mean to go on. Be strong. Her generation need to learn to step back and give us space to mother and some of them are better at it than others.

Lead the way. It's YOUR shout now.

dd goes to MIL everyother weekend and has since she was 2 months old (she is now 7 months)

She is perfectly happy there, and it is FANTASTIC to have a full nights sleep!. MIL is so excited by it she tidies up before she comes, so she can sit and gaze at her

I think you should bite her hand off, and let her go.

I think what i may do is drop DS there for a couple of afternoons first, so she's reminded of the work involved in chasing a rampaging child who's trying to eat everything it finds, and so i can see if DS is happy to be left there.

Maybe then he can stay a night. Maybe.

Go for it!! So long as you trust her fully. DD stayed with my parents since she was 2 weeks old. Never stayed with the inlaws right enough - but they are a totally different story!

DD loves staying at my parents and they love it too. Mind you sometimes its an effort to get her home she has that much fun!

Absolutely. DS has been stying with my parents since he was a few weeks old, but then my mom was my birth partner and has been like a third parent to him.

If you want perhaps you could spend the first night he stays there with him just to see how she copes?

i'd leave him with her for a full day before i left him for a full night.

i think a day might be better Dizzybint. A day to ourselves would be lovely, and we could rest at night knowing he was in the next room, not the next town.

Perhaps i'll see if she'd like to have him for a Saturday / Sunday.