Due to my own health issues and several other factors, separating from DH would leave me very vulnerable just yet. I'm therefore looking for advice on how to keep going in this relationship with DH when I feel the way I do?
DH is a likeable person by nature, due to our age, we werent together a long time before we decided that marriage and children was on the cards. In the beginning, DH was attentive towards me and towards himself and his appearance.
As time went on, DH appeared disinterested in sex, his appearance and health and hygiene. I find it repulsive that he neglects himself so much and makes absolutely no effort in the clothes he wears or sometimes, how often he washes.it was not like this during the first year at all.
We've now been together for 5 years and have DCS and I am finding his behaviours and lack of care for himself completely unattractive. I spoke to him about washing everyday which had improved a lot, we're still working on taking pride in his appearance, but I just feel completely disappointed in him for living like this.
I spoke to his brother about it recently (who is not like this)as I was worried he may be depressed and he told me that DH was like this before I came along and that he appeared to make a lot more effort during the first year that we were dating.
Leaving DH would leave me very vulnerable, but I am struggling in relating to DH romantically at all. I've also discovered quite recently that DH was in fact a Virgin when we got together (in his mid-thirties) and had very little desire for sexual relations of any kind. This would explain his preferring to slob around watching TV than have sex.
I know that some people would tell me to leave him if I feel like this, but it really isn't an option for me at the moment. There is a lot of stress and upheaval in our lives and my health has been a problem.
How do I cope in this relationship when I feel the way I do?