How do you know real remorse/guilt?

[Humblebee1]

How do you recognise true remorse and guilt for cheating on you, and how to tell it's not just self pity and panic at the thought of reaping the responsibility for wrecking the family home life.??? I worry it's the later and therefore giving a second chance will fail only to prolong all our agony. Confused! Help.

So much for the brave, strong me, feeling. Bewildered tbh. Spent most of last night crying and texting him to get answers that'll never be answered. Just undone all my hard work of trying regain my self respect.

Sorry, that post was not very well written.

Don't be hard on yourself, you are doing so well. So you let you emotions show to him last night, never mind, back on with the iron lady suit of armour today.

Thanks for replies. I found out by checking his work phone after a gut feeling when he over did it with personal abuse in a minor tiff. It was out of character for the usually annoyingly passive got. You made me smile lotsofponies, your right, it gets as bit weighty sometimes though.

Sorry, on phone, meant annoyingly passive GIT.