How do I tell my Mum?

[pullingmyhairout1]

My Mum is a narcissist. She also emotionally manipulates until she gets what she wants. I am an only child, and whilst she has helped me over the years emotionally and financially (multiple redundancies in short space of time) this help has always come with strings such as she expects me to 'toe the line' and for the most part I have for a quiet life.

This time I can't though. My eldest has been bullied horrifically the last year, and my ex has started damaging my vehicle amongst other things. Both are at the point where we can no longer live where we do so I have agreed a let on a property 25 miles away which gets my son out of this cesspit of a place. I have broached the subject of moving with my Mum and she is adamant my son should not run away from his problems. Given that the Police have advised us that they won't go and see the parents because it will escalate the problem and my son's school are powerless I disagree with my Mum so I am going. I have to tell her though. Can anyone give me an idea of how. I am ultra stressed by this. I know writing to her will piss her off more than face to face but face to face is going to be mega nightmare and she will go nuclear.

pillingmyhairout - I did not mean all of the previous post was directed at you. I see a lot of comments about going NC which upsets me a bit as I am the constant contact and the sib is only rarely.
We are in very different situations but I thought perhaps a side view from neither the parent nor the child would be another angle.
I have an adult child who is constantly criticising me on every possible topic and even though I know I have a whole load of skills it does drag me down to live with constant criticism. I do get anxious and physically affected by it all.

As you say you would not take this from anyone else in your life. Perhaps similarly I would not take this from a husband/partner I find it very hard to deal with my own child being like this.
I do not like my younger child seeing it either

I think I'm on red alert still TheBouquets it has been a shock to the system to have to be quite so ruthless again with her just to protect my own.

I wish we all had families that loved and cared for each other without agenda. I guess I can only build that going forward.

It may be a surprise for me to say it this way round but I am also thinking very carefully about moving away. I cant see any decent future with all the put downs for me.

A loving family would be great if only it were possible for us all. Good luck with your move. I am terrified of my move too but it all depends on how much I want peace around me and the wee one.
Best wishes

Like everyone you have to do what you can to protect yourself and your little one

Still radio silence. This is lovely. Beginning to wish I'd done it sooner.