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Pretty sure I'm being ghosted, what do you think?

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DateMate · 01/09/2016 22:16

Been with a guy 3 months, he was really keen in the beginning, almost too keen. We met, hit it off and have seen each other when we can since then as he lives away from me.

Conversations used to be fun, we would laugh and talk for hours, text etc.

He got drunk and called me up, told me he thinks we're on different wavelengths, told me that if I don't change he's never going to marry me (I found this strange, I haven't hinted at wanting to get married!).

Since then conversations have dwindled, few texts here and there, nothing much and a 2 minute phone call at night to say night every now and then.

Today; I asked him if everything was okay, he said he's busy with work etc. I replied and didn't have a reply since then, I called later on, no answer so I text asking if he's still interested as it feels like he's ghosting, nothing.

What do I do now? Was I slowly being ghosted?

OP posts:
LuluJakey1 · 02/09/2016 18:47

Now I am angry at him too. Cheeky git. Text him 'Yawn, yawn! Fuck off. Not interested any more. Never contact me again' and them block him.

DamnGood314 · 02/09/2016 21:03

Men and marriage !!
I went on a first date with a man i was in two minds about anyway and he said seriously "im not getting married again".
I said "not to me you're not".

Later when i end3d it as sensitively as i could to avoid saying 'you're boring' he offered a u-turn on the marriage issue. Obsessed with his own marriagibility!!

DamnGood314 · 02/09/2016 21:53

Very recently though, something similar happened to me OP and I wish I'd sent the text somebody suggested, along the lines of ''this was fun to begin with but I'm going to say good bye to you here, good luck''. I was seeing this man (in his 50s so I didn't expect him to be a coward or to ghost me. I think that's what made me give him the benefit of the doubt) but he just stopped liking me one minute in the run up to his holiday but he didn't end it. He just seemed a bit down, and busy. He didn't get in touch for about 9 days so I figured it out. I wish, early on in his holiday I'd texted him to say ''well, I'm brave even if you're not, I'm going to draw a line under this and say good bye''.
Unfortunately I probably flattered his ego no end, which makes me mad now as I'm over it only a fortnight later.

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