Pretty sure I'm being ghosted, what do you think?

[DateMate]

Been with a guy 3 months, he was really keen in the beginning, almost too keen. We met, hit it off and have seen each other when we can since then as he lives away from me.

Conversations used to be fun, we would laugh and talk for hours, text etc.

He got drunk and called me up, told me he thinks we're on different wavelengths, told me that if I don't change he's never going to marry me (I found this strange, I haven't hinted at wanting to get married!).

Since then conversations have dwindled, few texts here and there, nothing much and a 2 minute phone call at night to say night every now and then.

Today; I asked him if everything was okay, he said he's busy with work etc. I replied and didn't have a reply since then, I called later on, no answer so I text asking if he's still interested as it feels like he's ghosting, nothing.

What do I do now? Was I slowly being ghosted?

Hes a nutjob. As a pp said. Block ignore delete!! With no further ado! X

What Haudyer said!! Don't apply fancy names to a twat's behavior, just move on.

Should I not send a 'this isn't working for me?'

Why? Just block and delete. If you get another text ask 'who is this?'

Sounds to me, like most relationships that start very intense with high levels of contact & it being a bit all or nothing. There's only one way they can go.
Sorry op, I think he's done with it

He is being weird, to say the least. However, if you are really that much into this (i.e. think there is more to him and you don't want to see it gone), you probably need some sort of explanation. If that is the case, I would politely ask for a conversation and explanation, and then decide what to do. Of course, if he continues being unreasonable, you should just end it.

Just block him and move on. He sounds like the kind of guy who could easily turn manipulative. That phone call in itself was pretty weird. When you meet the right guy, you won't find yourself feeling uncertain and doubtful like this - the right person is on your side and doesn't play games. Anything else is a waste of your sweet time.

I feel like if I text him again I'm losing my dignity a bit because I've already rang him and text him asking him to be honest about whether or not he's still interested or if he's ghosting and I've heard back nothing.

Definitely just leave it then. He's not ghosting but you've already asked if he's interested and then called him, and he hasn't responded to either. If you needed more confirmation after the phone call, that's it right there.

You'll never get an explanation, he won't want to explain why it didn't work. It sounds like he probably told you during the call anyway - there are parts of you that he feels need to change to make you marriage material. You aren't compatible long-term, he only ever saw this as something to fill the time.

Block him and start moving on, you'll feel much happier for it.

He replied aggressively; said he doesn't need to talk to me all the time, he's sorting things out and he won't live in each others pockets.

I don't hound him with messages or calls, I'm not needy so I don't know where that came from.

Why haven't you blocked him yet

Just reply and say this isn't working for you and you're not interested in playing games

I deleted everything as I didn't expect to hear from him so just left it at that; woke up this morning with that said to me.

Sounds like he wants to keep you hanging around, but you do NOT need someone like that in your life. Look at the way he's speaking to you- he's making it perfectly clear that he is the one that matters and you have to fall in line.

Don't reply.

Ok, I would definitely reply now, along the lines of what Hold says above.

Then delete and block. You get to have the last word and he knows you won't put up with that kind of shit.

Definitely block afterwards though, just in case he's one of those game players who likes to draw people back in again.

Onwards and upwards now; it's better to be on your own than dealing with that level or fuckwittery.

*of fuckwittery

You can't make this work. He's a prick. You can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear, and you can't make a lovely boyfriend out of an arsehole.

Text what hold said, and then block.

Sounds like a dickhead. Just don't reply anymore. Is he from OLD? Met so many like this it was ridiculous in the end. NEXT!

Oh why not give him some satisfaction and say, "Oh but I love you and I will NEVER let you go."

Then block him.

He sounds unhinged but also like he doesn't even like you, stop chasing him you have done enough to make him think he can treat you like crap and you go back for more, work on yourself and raise your bar, what a knob (him).

Three months in and he is trying to change you for marriage...run. Fast.

"You have things to sort out too-like finding a new boyfriend. Bye."

As others have said block him and run for the hills - he is NOT a nice man

Lucky escape, at least he's let you know he's an arsehole so early in the relationship

If you don't change, then I may not want to marry you....

Ugh. Just ugh. Move on OP, you could do so much better. I think at this stage I would not reply, just delete and block. If you text him back, even just with the last word, you will be waiting and wondering if he's going to reply to you. Let this one go - he sounds really awful.

I wouldn't say that this sounds like ghosting, but he does sound unhinged.
Run a mile and don't look back. If you don't, his behaviour towards you will get even worse!
Huge red flags, he's waving them in your face.

My DSis was seeing someone, not at all seriously. More F buddies.

One day he rang her out of the blue, and said "My mother says I can't marry you, because you're not Jewish". She was like wtf then