my wife has threatened to kill me.

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several times.. not in the row sense. " could fucking kill you" or what ever

but she has told me several times that she has looked at the knife drawer and thought about sneaking into my room whilst I am sleeping in the middle of the night.

she is telling me she hates me. she cant stand me.

keeps saying she wants to leave me and the girls - pretty much every month since they were born..

AIBU to think that this beyond therapy?

she was severely post natal depressed. - I didnt realise that depressed people would throw glass at you.. she has unclipped my seatbelt whilst driving on a few occasions.. threw books at the 3 month olds..

She is constantly angry at me..

I dont want a divorce becos I dont want my 3 year old twins to have my childhood.

But Looking at the above what hope is there?

Op, she needs help, and most importantly the kids need to be kept safe.

I fully admit I haven't rtft but some things in your op made me worry - have you heard of puerperal psychosis - how old is your child? I may be barking up the wrong tree but it's it normal behaviour.

@ ciaoveronica

No need to try discredit op.

Em, op said they could not open a account with a passport, I said in my experience its not the case. I thought I was being helpful.

i am embarrassed to admit my wife and I kind of fought.

I was kneeling down cleaning the kids teeth - one of the 3 yo was sat on my thigh., and I got a lecture becos I said I was tired ( we all have colds ) I was working late the night before on a new job - I am self employed. I didnt appreciate this too much, she stays up late on computer as well.. altho that is usually recreational.

So I asked her calmly to give me a break. actually the night before she had been tired and I moved the kids from her bed for her. ie sympathetic reaction. I suggested she might treat me the same. she got angry.

She walked by me and swung her hips into my shoulder. a bit like how u might shut a door with your hands full. it was forceful enough that I had to use an arm to catch my balance.

I retreated after finishing the teeth. but I felt upset. I went downstairs and told her I didnt like that. she apologised - but then lost it and told me she hated me.

The kids came back upstairs with me.. she came up 5 mins later. and was angry at me - goading me becos I said it was abuse.. I tried to remain calm and explain more..

she then put her hand on my face - maybe she was just tryig to put it infront of my face . she was saying blah blah blah. but when it touched my face- I didnt think - I just shoved her away with the palms of my hands.. I am 168 cm tall. I am not a big guy at all I've never worked out - so I am not overly strong.

After I pushed her away- she fell onto her bum.. maybe she wasnt expecting me to shove her. I was pretty shocked i did it.. but it was a reaction to having someone's hand over my face.

I dont know what to feel. I wished I hadnt pushed her. but when her hand touched my face I felt furious. I just stepped back afterwards and was eerily calm cos the kids were there. She cried then started screaming at me - so I just took the kids out by myself for the next 12 hours. car boots - park for a picnic - tesco sandwiches save the day. and then a restaurant for dinner.

during the day a few texts. but basically I said get counselling sorted.

so she has made an appointment for counselling - she is going first. but she feels i am getting at her - becos I asked her to be fair an tell the counsellor what she has been saying to me . But I get the impression she is just going to sit and bitch about my faults.

How can I get thru to her that I am not 'digging' at her.. she is soooo critical of me. I am not perfect. I do leave cups by sinks, altho I am trying to load the dishwasher more. I put my own washing on. I usually give the girls breakfast and help bath them everyday.

But I am the only one working in this 'partnership'

What can I say to her so she gets actual 'value' from the counsellor?

I dont want to be a single parent, I dont want her to be a single parent.