outted!!

[incognitomode]

So I left mumsnet a good few years ago because too many RL people used it and I kept getting outted when I posted personal stuff.
I come back on and my first post in forever is about my husband and our relationship and he has some how found out about it and posted it to his online community.
My husband doesn't go on mumsnet and no one elses knows about our current situation, how the fuck would he have found it?

[Buzzardbird]

Even if you namechange, if he clicks 'I'm On' he will see this thread...just so you know.

[incognitomode]

It is definitely fucked up at the moment, hence my original post, I am trying not to be to angry about it because there is so much else to be upset about at the moment.
I am pretty sure he wouldn't have done it if we were not so up in the air.

[incognitomode]

Poo, yes he would Buzzard.
I have changed my passwords, but that doesn't sit that well with me. Gah why does everything have to be so hard.

[incognitomode]

Well MN have been epic and it has been deleted already, thanks MN.
So at least that means that when people click on the link there will be nothing there.
Though I guess that will mean he knows I had it deleted.
Cue new row.

[Mamia15]

You need to log in and out of Mumsnet each time now that you've changed passwords.

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

he then went on and said don't believe she thinks that.

I think he posted it to the other website to get people to agree with him, and even though you made your initial mumsnet post believing it to be anonymous, he's saying you don't REALLY think that about the situation so that he can paint the situation from his perspective to influence others into agreeing with him.

Sounds fucked up.

If he actually cared, wouldn't he have read what you posted, taken it as an accurate representation of how you felt, then try to sort it out with you rather than look for validation that he is right from another website?

[incognitomode]

I agree Decaff, there is no reason for me to not post up exactly what I was thinking here, I was not expecting anyone I know to see it and wanted to to read what others though.
As it was I got no replies so it was a pointless exercise all round.
Oh thats him home now...

[ratspeaker]

Delete your history and cookies each time , make sure you log out.
Or use private browsing.

[WellErrr]

He's snooping.

[AnyFucker]

This is Relationship Over, surely ?

[WamBamThankYouMaam]

So you can post about him, and that's alright? But he can't post about you, because that's out of order?

And he posted on another site, which you've seen even though you haven't used it in years?

[incognitomode]

I didn't say it wasn't all right for him to post about me. He has every right to seek advice/help.
Though I don't think it is cool for him to post a link to my post for his friends to read.
Anyfucker it certainly feels that way at the moment.

[EstellaHavisham]

Has he said anything OP?
He's invaded your privacy massively. I would struggle to come back from this.

[incognitomode]

No, he said nothing.
He avoided me all evening remarkably easy to do when you have a house mate a loads of kids.
He left this morning without saying a word and we have his kids today after work so we won't get to talk about it until 8.30 ish at the earliest.