In the middle of divorce and trying to sort out finances. I have (had) a book to keep notes of meetings with solicitors, talks with mortgage provider, mediator, their comments, my calculations, all this info, and also I have noted my own thoughts. I kept it in a basket by my bedside with other paperwork. Probably stupid of me. Two days ago I couldn't find it anywhere. He has taken it and read it, I know this because he has confronted me about some of the things I noted. For example, I wrote "C's letter", and he demands to know what this means, he thinks it's a letter that my daughter has written to 'the court'. He denies having taken the book, says he doesn't know where it is, and will not let me have it back. I had written that although I wanted a fair and reasonable settlement, I sometimes felt I ought to have 'compensation' for the years of bad treatment.(Long story, worst bits are he doesn't speak to two of our children aged 22 and 18, who still live with us, and a whole load of EA). He was very frightening and said if I went for 'compensation' he would end up in prison. That's a threat to me, isn't it? He then said I had had several affairs but couldn't actually name any of these men. I have not had any affairs. Even after quoting from my notes, he denies he has got the book. Normally I can handle things, but this has really shaken me. I don't want to play the sympathy card, but I go to hospital today to find out if I need chemo after a mastectomy I had 6 weeks ago. Advice on how to remain strong and deal with this behaviour, please !