Ever felt an intense and purely sexual attraction towards a stranger? Chemistry/pheromones? (Agh - my new postman!)

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I'm 29, casually dating since the end of a long-term relationship. A few sexual partners in the past, and never any complaints. If you'd asked me if I'd been very sexually attracted to my previous partners, I'd have said a definite yes.

But out of absolutely nowhere I've developed an intense sexual attraction to my postman, and I've never felt anything like it before. He's been delivering here for about a month and I've spotted him a few times, but until recently hadn't been face to face with him. He's physically nothing like I usually find attractive, and I wouldn't have given him a second thought really. This changed two weekends ago when he delivered a parcel. He leant over to stroke my cat, quite close to me and BAM, I was overcome with this urge to jump his bones.

I'm working from home today and had another delivery. Again, the same thing happened and although I still can't say I find him physically attractive, he literally made my knees weak. I just want to have sex with him more than I've ever wanted to have sex with anybody, and I have no idea why. I can hardly stop thinking about him.

I need help! It must be something chemical, right?! Pheromones? Are they a myth? How do I stop thinking about him? I feel weird and embarrassed - part giddy teen, part sex fiend (if only in my head).

Please distract me and tell me your experiences of similarly unexpected, intense sexual attraction - and please don't tell me you acted on the attraction and found the sex to be every bit as mind-blowing as you could possibly imagine

I had this with my friend's boyfriend, years ago. She went on holiday for a week, without him, and we spent the week shagging. They are now married and she never found out.

MrsSchadenfreude LOL!, naughty naughty, that does beg the question are you still err friends;?

I had it once in a nightclub. Went downstairs to the toilets and some guy behind me commented on my tattoo. Turned around and BOOM. Sexual chemistry. It was amazing! As was the sex!

Twice in my life. Neither physically my type. First one we had a pssssionate, amazing but very up and down relationship for three years. Sex was outrageously good. Considered him the love of my life until I met the next one five years later....

.... By then I was engaged to someone else who I definitely didn't feel that way about. Went for safe with almost zero sexual attraction in fiancé, because Love of my Life and I had been so destructive to one another. But then I met this guy at work and like you say, never wanted to fuck someone so much in my life. I was drooling over him from the second I met him. Was ridiculous. Luckily he turned out to be nice and not mad and hot for me too. Sex was as amazing as hoped (after I chucked fiancé, I hasten to add) and I married him. Still find him hot as hell. Must be pheromones, I agree!

Yes. I was in my 20s and there was a guy at work and every time I walked past him, the electricity fizzed in the air. It was insane. After months of shy hellos and staring at each other, he asked me out. I could barely contain myself.

So we met for drinks. Decided pretty quickly to go back to his place! The sex was crap. Total shit. He kept his socks on and one leg in his trousers. And he kept telling me to shush! I left as soon as I could get the chance. And I spotted a photo of Margaret Thatcher on his wall in the hallway on my way out. Lucky escape!

Is it the general consensus that when the woman feels this BOOM WOW moment the man does too?

I had it once. The man was due to get married. He started acting like an absolute asshole towards me afterwards. It was made worse by the fact that I flushed all the way down to my nipples every time I saw him. I always wondered if he was a Dick to me because he felt the same or if I was annoying him with my big red face.

Yes, yes to this thread. Thank God I'm not going mad. Had this earlier this year with a guy who started getting my regular early morning train. Absolutely electric attraction and mutual. He would sit next to me and I'd be desperate for the train to lurch so I could touch him. We've chatted sporadically but he's stopped getting the train now...

Send a postcard to yourself OP but address it to the postman, something suggestive but funny.

I have had a few of these moments, most reciprocated I hasten to add.

Except for the AA man who I found ridiculously attractive. I text him afterwards to his work number which he rang me off and basically said sorry if this is inappropriate but I find you v attractive, can I get your number. He text back saying he was flattered but had a girlfriend. I'm still glad I tried though

There was a guy in my year at university who did this to me - I could feel myself getting wet every time I saw him (sorry - TMI) & I contrived ridiculous situations in order to bump into him - apologies to my friends who were dragged around by my lust! He was friendly & sightly flirty towards me, but no more than to anyone else. He wasn't even that good-looking, but I thought him so damned sexy.

After a while we were both single at the same time & he asked me out - we went out for about six months & it was a disaster - the sex was great but I was so stunned by his presence I could hardly string two words together!

Bettydownthehall that's such a great idea. That way if he's not interested or single he can pretend he's not read it. Everyone's a winner and no harm done. It's a clever and witty thing to do too.

Two websites which you might find helpful in this situation:-

www.amazon.co.uk

www.ebay.co.uk

I had rhis at 19. A man walked passed me outside a cafe and our eyes locked. I went red and my mate asked me if i was ok.

Two months later, he came up to me in a night club and said 'hello cafe girl'. It was a disaster for a myriad of reasons ( i went to uni/ he had finished) but i truly loved him for about 4 years.

Still would.

Question is does "he" cause the same effect in other women?

It seems from reading these encounters that the man causing the "disturbances" doesn't seem to know he is doing so by not taking it further i.e. making her feelings known to him. Or at least very rarely.

I had this when I met DP, absolutely buzzing when he kissed me, went weak at the knees and may have accidentally mumbled that I loved him Even now several years later my heart skips when I see a message from him and my stomach flips when I see him at the door! I love getting my nose into his armpits, especially if he has forgotten to use deodorant so I am a firm believer in pheromones.